This community was not built as a democracy of noise, but as a republic of standards—much like the American one. Leadership exists, the Stewardship leads, but the voice of our members is always heard. Last Sunday, we tested a new tool: in-app recording for our video meetings. Two sessions were recorded and briefly shared in separate posts. The intention was simple and honest: to prove the tool worked and to give access to those who couldn’t attend live. Those videos have since been removed by the Stewardship. Not because privacy was ever compromised—we are, after all, a closed society with a strict admission filter—but because this was exactly that: a test. A controlled experiment around an idea we’re exploring. The idea is straightforward: short, focused five-minute lessons at the beginning of our meetings, followed by what truly defines us—the conversations. The Gentlemen’s Conversations. This Society is meant to grow. To become a force for good for every man willing to become a gentleman. There are plans for that. If you prefer our video meetings to remain exactly as they are today—pure Gentleman Conversations—cast your vote in the poll below. If the response is affirmative to introducing a five-minute lesson at the beginning, followed by five to ten minutes for questions, a second poll will be conducted. That poll will determine whether members wish to record only the lesson segment and the gentleman delivering it. TO OUR NEW MEMBERS: A brief clarification on access and structure. We maintain a dedicated WhatsApp group for high-quality video calls. Because phone numbers are involved, this benefit unlocks only after a minimum of 19 days of active membership. That threshold exists for one reason: standards. WhatsApp is the most widely used messaging platform in the world. It is end-to-end encrypted, offering an additional layer of privacy, and it is owned by the American company Meta—the same parent company behind Instagram and Facebook. This group was created months ago with full confidence in the caliber of our members. We expect, and have consistently seen, appropriate and respectful conduct. That expectation is non-negotiable.

The Society of Ordinary Gentlemen, the O.G.’s of Gentlemanly Behavior, was created to provide a haven where gentlemen and ladies can communicate with each other in a polite and courteous setting. While many discussions will center around genteel behavior, humor, fashion, food, mental and physical well-being, and the active mentoring of a new generation of gentlemen, no topic of discussion is off limits provided the discussion is conducted within the Code of Conduct of the Society. The Society of Ordinary Gents is not a platform for recruiting members into sub-groups, special membership groups, or educational or financial opportunities. Poachers, Charlatans, or Internet Self-Help Gurus will be banned. The Society is not going to teach you how to be James Bond, John Wick, or the secret methods to make women want you. The Society is not a for-profit group or business. Essentially, The Society of Ordinary Gents is the online equivalent of friends enjoying a cigar, a bourbon and the company of others, as we discuss meaningful and trivial matters sitting in comfortable chairs. Membership: - Must Be a Legal Adult - Name, Age Range, Occupation/Status, General Location on Profile is Recommended - Hobbies and Interest on Profile is Recommended - An Alias is Acceptable for Privacy. - Introductory Posts are Required within 72 hours. A Gentleman or Lady Introduces Themselves Code of Conduct: - Must Be Courteous, Professional, Honorable - No Derogatory Comments Towards Members - Lively Debate is Welcome, Personal Attacks Will Not Be Tolerated - No Gratuitous Profanity or Sexually Explicit Content - Must Have a Sense of Humor - Being Offended is Up to the Reader - Lurkers, Looky-Loos and Inactive (30+ days) Members May Be Removed. - Failure to write an Introductory Post will result in removal, with the option to reapply. No Solicitation: - The Society of Ordinary Gentlemen Does Not Sell, or Tolerate the Selling of Products, Services or Ideas for Commercial Purposes.

Gentlemen, Dames As the tinsel goes up, so too — one observes — does the general sense of existential despair. It’s quite all right to acknowledge this. We all feel it. December, for all its glitter and glühwein, is a treacherous month for the solitary man. The shops overflow with couples in matching knitwear. Invitations abound, yet somehow all lead to events titled “Merry and Married.” Even the wine begins to taste smug — much like those Christmas cards, plastered with faux-happy family photos and a Labrador in antlers. And to compound the matter — as if the universe were actively conspiring — His Grace’s football (“soccer”) team has entered into what can only be described as a tactical winter hibernation, languishing at the wrong end of the Premier League, with a festive fixture list that promises further psychological ruin. It is, one might say, a perilous time for morale. So let it be known: Christmas is not, in fact, the most wonderful time of the year. For many of us, it is a brutal reminder that one is not in Saint‑Tropez, not in love, and not — despite heroic efforts — anywhere near the top four. So what is a gentleman to do? He is to rally. He is to send for cigars. He is to check on his comrades. He is to pour a generous port and raise it — not to sentiment, but to sovereignty. The Society of Ordinary Gentlemen should hold the line this season, and I encourage us all to connect more. I shall be available for chats, dispatches, and perhaps a festive conference call — accompanied by an iced bottle of Veuve Clicquot from my Spanish hacienda, where I shall be restoring myself, most likely by the pool. This is our Dunkirk. So if you see a fellow member adrift this December — do not let him drift. Send a message. Extend a hand. After all, a gentleman does not let another gentleman go mad alone in December. Rene