How do you guys make friends ! ( I need help )

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So , I've never been much of a " friend " from middle school until now

Was always bullied for being " too religious " in my clothing style etc

I was being abused too by classmates and so called friends that I trusted .

In high school , I didn't make friends at all

I thought my close classmates were my friends when they weren't really , it was one sided .

Now that I am in college , I'm entering my 3rd year of vet School , I made friendships in my first and second year

But none of them seemed to last , because I was so into them , and they weren't intentional about the friendship

One guy was forcing to be with him , and I got attached ( still friends ) and the end of the day I've let him go .

And in the second year of vet school I had a friend group from the first year , we were like 11 members

I isolated myself because 2 of them were " giving off vibes " towards me only , which felt very odd to me .

And then when the two girls left that group , I started to socialize again with this group .

And I was very " back up " friend , the friend that they never invite or make plans with , they only show me the pictures when we're at school

One time they ordered food and I was broke that day around , nobody cared enough to share their meal or anything else.

They never included me in conversations , like I'd stand there listening and zoning out all the time .

See the type of conversations that they all know about except you , they start talking and you feel like and outsider ? That's was it .

And one time I told this girl of this group please can you add me to the group chat ? She said oh well they are people who don't know you in there , they won't feel comfortable in your presence .

So basically she didn't want to because they have " private conversations " happening in there .

I've cut the whole group off , the next day she came to ask me if I was mad , I said yeah and it was very disrespectful

She said alright bye and went crying to the group of friends and sent me two of her friends to blame me and why I made her cry and she was gentle with me sending hearts etc .

I said I don't want y'all , leave me alone .

Cuz I'm really not into this type of drama , and I left .

From that day I don't have friends , I only got 2 good classmates

One time last year , I became friends with two girls , everything was okay until they started to become negative , the girl said on the phone : oh you're with Sarah ? Insisting everytime it felt bizarre.

And then , since I don't have any friends besides them , they passed by me one time calling me autistic .

What loneliness had to do with autism ? I don't know

I don't know if I'm autistic or not , but I know I'm different , quiet and sensitive.

But I don't know if it's my fault to not find good people or the place I am in is just that toxic ?

And please give me tips to make friends with same interests as me :)

If you got to this point , thank you I appreciate your effort !! 🙏🏼

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