(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Your quality of life is dictated by the quality of your thoughts. Your inner voice in your mind must be kind to you or you will be miserable and unhappy no matter what. The perfect balance between holding yourself to a high standard and being kind to yourself is speaking to yourself like a best friend in your mind. I learned this in a mental health course called the science of wellbeing. And ever since I applied it myself it changed my life. So how do you do this? You may be wondering. Here is how, you do these 4 things as the pre requisite to using the talk to yourself in the best friend voice, other wise you would probably forget or something, and when you do these things you will just like yourself better: 1. Meditate, download the medito app, and just start small, and work your way up to at least 5 mins a day, every day. 2. Gratitude, begin gratitude journaling every day, this forces yourself to have more positive thoughts, 3. Eat clean, do not eat seed oils, processed junk, eat natural good healthy food, that does not have weird or artificial ingredients. 4. Heal trauma, I have spoke about this many times, simply bring up the past unprocessed emotion and do a healing method like shaking, this is the most important.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) I speak to tons of entrepreneurs every day, and despite their vanity success, successful businesses. They still feel like something is missing, and they feel empty to an extent still, and are not happy. It is like they build businesses that are like “golden handcuffs.” And honestly after speaking to honestly about 100 entrepreneurs like this now. I believe the biggest reason is this… They have unhealed trauma. Unhealed trauma has caused these business men to pursue business just for the money not the purpose, and it makes them always have that bullying voice in the back of their mind annoying them. I tell all these people I help this advice and it changes their life and makes them happy beyond money. 1. Enjoy your business and the journey, you gotta optimise your business for the most fun, and enjoy the journey cause that is what it is all about. 2. Heal your trauma, simply bring up the old unprocessed emotion, then act on what your brain tells you or just shake for a couple of mins and repeat that for all trauma incidents and that will begin healing you.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) From January 2024 to April 2024, I went through a very rough time in life, it happens. You see at school my only friend in my class left, and that left me lonely and at lunch and breaks, I of course did not want to be alone so I ran around with people in the year below me and they were never true friends. I talked to these guys on the bus and occasionally outside of school so I thought it would be fine of I hanged around with them at lunch, break and etc. So that is what I do, it is fine at first, no bullying. But as time goes on it begins, it starts small, just a few names every now and then, no biggie. But it progressively gets worse and worse, I foolishly play into their “game” too. I give them reactions, as a joke not cause I was actually mad at them but just for my own fun too. But that gets out of control, they do it so much that it actually pisses me off and more and more people do it. It got so bad like 50+ people would call me the nick name and just bully me so bad. I actually left school early in my final year, cause of it, and this brings me to the point were I finally begin healing this awful trauma that would forever affect me, make me less money for the rest of my life of I did not heal it. It begins in April of 2024… By this point I had been on the traditional mental health habits like meditation, gratitude journaling and etc. So it begins here, the morning after I left school I began my healing journey the first thing I did was journal the whole story in brutal detail, then I reframed the story to make it seem like it was a good thing, and I wrote why the bullies, bullied me so I could understand they were the true victims not me. This helped tremendously, from that point on I kept that note close by, so I could look at it anytime I felt down. That was the biggest thing for me healing this trauma honestly was journaling that.

I’ve noticed that a lot of fitness coaches and trainers put in countless hours trying to grow their brand, post on social media, and run back-to-back sessions with clients — but at the end of the day, they still feel stuck when it comes to creating consistent income or reaching a wider audience. The truth is, there’s only so much time in a day, and if everything depends on you being present 24/7, burnout eventually kicks in. What’s interesting is that some coaches have started looking at things differently. Instead of only chasing likes and followers, they’ve begun building assets that actually work for them in the background. For example, a channel that keeps attracting people to their content every single day, or a system that allows clients to purchase programs or products without needing the coach to be online. It’s a completely different way of thinking — one that focuses on growth that scales beyond your personal time and energy. It made me curious to hear from others in this community: if you had to choose only one, would you rather spend your energy on building a bigger online audience (through platforms like YouTube, Instagram, or TikTok) or setting up systems that can sell your programs and products automatically (like online shops or funnels)? And why?

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) I first got into improving my mental health in November 2023. And it changed my life it not only made me happier, but it was also the reason I achieved my goals this year in making money, fitness and etc. I have learned speaking to tons of business owners who “make it.” They complain that they still feel unhappy. They think success and materialistic items is how you become happy. They are mistaken, prioritising your mental health, by doing mental health habits, healing trauma and etc, these are so important and they are not a waste of time, some people I help think they are. Will be the key to you unlocking happiness beyond money. 🔑