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Tips for First Meeting

Asalaamu’alaikoum Wa Rahmatullah ladies, with my refined process and serious intentions I’m getting back into the marriage search and vetting bi'ithnillah. I’ve always been picky but admittedly I wasn’t serious (nor prepared for) marriage before this year. I’m the eldest at 22 so my father has yet to act as a Wali for any of his children subhanAllah. With my new process of filtering through the seious and unserious, establishing some compatibility with a mahram chaperone, then hastening to pass them off to my Wali if interest is there; I anticipate some first meetings to be coming up. I’m a lil nervous but also idk what to expect.

My parents and I decided first meetings will be at cafes or gardens to gauge public manners and keep some distance initially, and to focus on conversation rather than food. Also, my dad will sit with us (me and potential) with my mom nearby, he will initiate the convo post introductions but step to the side that way the potential isn't looking to him for answers with questions only I can answer bc it’s about me lol. Then my dad will wrap it up after 60-90 mins if it doesn’t naturally conclude early.

Any advice or tips on how to not be too shy, do I make eye contact or not, etc… or even just stories of your first meeting ever would be greatly appreciated sisters 💓

Also, I’m in niqab but if a potential gets as far as a first meeting and wants to see my face I’m willing to show them (since attractiveness is important, men are visual and tbh it’s important he’s attractive to me and finds me attractive too) so if anyone has gone through that and has any suggestions on how to not make it awkward and how long to let the look last before placing the niqab back let me know lol.

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