A little reflection that's been on my heart lately. 🩷🌷 For the past five years or so, I've been building a marriage journal in Notion. What started as a slightly embarrassing paper-based list I made before university, after my mum accidentally read all the qualities I hoped for in a husband one day (subhan'Allah, was I embarrased! 😂), slowly became something I never could have imagined. It's no longer just a scribbled list on a tatty page in an old slim A6 dusty diary . It's an entire digital system filled with notes from Islamic lectures, khutbahs and halaqahs. Reflections from Qur'an and life. Journal entries. Du'as. Lessons I've learned the hard way. Advice people have shared with me. Little moments of inspiration that I can only describe as gifts from Allah. Things I want to remember, implement, and one day, in shaa Allah, even share with my future spouse. Recently, I found myself thinking, "I'm so behind. This isn't where I thought I'd be by now." Then I opened that journal. SubhanAllah. I realised that although I may not be where I expected to be, Allah SWT has allowed me to build something so much more meaningful than I ever planned. Through hope in Him and having good expectations of Him, He turned what was once a simple wish into something that has become deeply personal and sacred to me. And I thought... maybe that's how Allah's blessings often look. Sometimes we become so focused on what we haven't received yet that we overlook what Allah has quietly been building within us all along. Maybe for you it's not a journal. Maybe it's the resilience Allah has nurtured in your heart. The people He has placed in your life. The knowledge you've gained. The healing you've experienced. The opportunities that arrived when you least expected them. The person you've become through all the waiting. If you're feeling behind today, take a moment to look back before looking ahead. You might just find that Allah has already written so much beauty into your story, beauty you were too busy waiting for the next chapter to notice.

Asalam alaykum ladies! Here is a rough draft of my muzz profile. I want to ask for your feedback and constructive criticism. @Mindful Muslimah Here it is: "Salaam! I am looking for a potential husband who shares my values, interests, and passion. My approach to finding a spouse is to connect in a halal manner, with family involvement and establish compatibility. I value taqwa, politeness, generosity, achieving excellence, helping others, and respecting parents. My personality: Most people tell me that I am sweet, nice, mature, and caring. I love spending time outside (restaurants, walking outside). Hence I am an outdoorsy girl. I like nature walks and visiting restaurants. I dream of traveling to different countries. I love learning new things such as language and culture. My family is my priority. In my free time, I love to read fiction, watch anime, hang out with friends, walk outside, and listen to Islamic lectures. Because I am improvement-driven, I strive to become the best version of myself. My ambition is to memorize the entire holy Qur’an. I feel like Allah SWT put me on this planet to make a positive impact. For compatibility purposes, I am looking for a partner to grow with me in deen, and be someone’s adventure partner. I am seeking a permanent, monogamous marriage rather than a short-term fling. We will be great if you’re a masculine man that prioritizes his family. He is self-confident about himself and strives to better himself. He questions things but is humble enough to admit his shortcomings. I am strict about practicing Islam. I try to follow the Qur’an and Sunnah. One thing I loved to know about you is your personality, and what experiences shaped you as a person. What’s your story? I am open to marrying someone who is divorced, and I don't want to move outside of XYZ city. If you’re interested, and to prevent losing barakah, I would ask that you DM me your cell # so that we can further connect on whatsapp groupchat (me, my dad, and you). Subsequently, we can zoom for a couple months."

Mark your calendars, sisters! 🤍 We're hosting a free class tomorrow at 9am EST with Mindful Muslimah.. a space to learn, reflect, and grow together, in shaa Allah. Have a question you'd love addressed during the session? Submit it now so it can be part of the conversation 👇 📝 Submit your question here: https://www.skool.com/muslimmarriageaccelerator/classroom/5f3c9933?md=7558a28126444d218b50acb7022f0c29 Looking forward to learning together! 🌱

The person you say "I do" to today won't be the exact same person 10, 20 years from now.. and neither will you. That's not a bad thing. That's just life. So when you're evaluating someone, don't get too attached to the things that are guaranteed to shift: ❌ Looks change. ❌ Careers change. ❌ Preferences change. ❌ Even personalities soften, sharpen, or evolve with age and life experience. What you should really be paying attention to is: 1️⃣ Their relationship with Allah... not performative religiosity, but a real, sincere connection with their deen. This is what shapes how they handle hardship, temptation, and responsibility over time. 2️⃣ Their character.. how they treat people when no one's watching. How they speak to their mother. How they treat someone who can't do anything for them. How they handle being wrong. Because when life gets hard (and it will), it's not their salary or their looks that will hold your marriage together. It's their deen. It's their character. That's what doesn't break under pressure. 💬 What's one character trait you consider non-negotiable in a spouse?

A few months into my search, I sat across from a brother who seemed genuinely great.. good deen, kind, said all the right things. I left the conversation feeling hopeful. It wasn't until weeks later, looking back, that I realized I never actually knew what I was listening for. His answers sounded good in the moment, but I couldn't tell you if they were real green flags or just well-rehearsed lines. That's when I found Mindful Muslimah's resources, and it completely changed how I approached these conversations. I learned it was never just about asking questions. It's about knowing which ones actually reveal character, what order to ask them in (yes, order matters), and what answers separate emotionally mature men from the ones who will quietly drain you over time. The resource that changed it for me was the Full Master List of Compatibility Questions. It breaks down the 3 Types of Questions framework, the 4 critical vetting areas, and gives real green flag vs. red flag answer examples, so you walk into your next conversation actually knowing what you're listening for. Sharing it here in case it helps someone else the way it helped me: https://www.skool.com/muslimmarriageaccelerator/classroom/0fd3c4be?md=066b47fe6bfa429a81ae68933f026d36