Separation….is there still hope? · Marriage Recovery Community

Separation….is there still hope?

This is primarily aimed at Mark to offer some insight but I’m completely happy for anyone else to chip in with their thoughts…..without listing every single issue a quick brief

Problems in marriage for 5-6 years. I totally admit we are both at fault for that. Not keeping score or who was worse. I felt horrible in the marriage mainly as I felt it slipping away and nothing I tried worked. I was at a terribly low moment, worst ever, and I spoke to and then met another woman. Nothing sexual at all happened. One off moment. But it’s a betrayal of trust. I accept I am at fault fully for that. Wife found out in July 2025. She asked me to move out for a few days then allowed me to return. Emotions were high. Occasionally some intimacy but mainly withdrawal. Through one of those moments….we conceived. And now we have an 8 week old son; adding to our daughters of 12 and 10. In September last year wife told me we are separated. Finito. However there’s been ambivalence since then. Moments of warmth and connection and moments of coldness. Wife has informed me she’s moving out. It’s happening in July. However we have had hugs and cuddles at night. We even had sex 2 days purely. Purely in the moment. To me it feels like it’s not totally totally dead on her part despite whatever she says and the actions she’s now taking.

Of course I totally get it’s hard to give any opinions based on a super high level basic history overview but my question was…..even in a physical separation as we are about to embark on….is there genuine chances to reconcile or is it game over??

TIA

Adam

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Separation….is there still hope?