Had a great weekend with the wife, although she’s still withdrawn from the relationship and set on separating. We talked, laughed, shared household chores, ran errands together. She even laid down and let me massage her and she fell asleep. I think all of this is the hardest to deal with, bc what does this stuff mean?! Does she want the relationship to work?? It also can make you want to chase, bc that stuff feels good. I’m doing my best to stay in my lane. I’m trying to show up as a man she can count on, and watching for the bids for connection. In my 45 years self improvement is the hardest thing I’ve faced. If anyone has advice or anything similar to share please do.

Hi mark I’ve just recently been separated from my wife of 20 years and last six weeks have been very difficult especially with the kids involved. Basically she told me she’s checked out and as I work away from Home for 7 days at a time it’s taken a toll on our marriage and she’s saying we’ve grown apart . To be honest I didn’t see this coming and it’s a total shock .

What are you struggling with most right now? During our separation, the bit I struggled most with was losing hope. We were stuck in limbo after my wife told me we were done yet we carried on co-parenting, she blew hot and cold with me, often nothing I would do would be right, other times I sensed hope and then it would disappear. What is your biggest challenge and how are you trying to overcome it?

Huge thanks to the men that attended my first webinar in the community - actually it eas my first live webinar ever so I was a bit nervous. There were some great questions and comments. I'll be making this a regular event, alternating topics and sharing tips and tools to help you navigate your challenges. My apolgies to anyone who couldn't make it. I had planned to record it but had some technical issues which made me forget to press the record button. The free eBook will be published here soon and I'll repeat this webinar material next month fir newer members so yoh can cat h it again then. Thanks again everyone. Please make use if this space - post your questions, challenges, wins - and lets make it a really supportive space.

Save the date in your diaries (that's your 'calendar' for our brothers across the pond): Thursday, February 19th @ 6pm - 7pm (UK time), 1pm Eastern https://www.skool.com/live/z6lGGwYYz7M It can be accessed from the Calendar at the top of the feed page. Based on my upcoming free eBook, this free live webinar will take you through the 15 key shifts I took to rebuild my marriage after my wife fell out of love with me and wanted to separate. I will be taking your questions and challenging you put these into practice in your marriage. Really excited to see you there.