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My wife and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10 years this month.

Recently, we went on a family holiday to Spain. Everything seemed great, and we had a really good time together as a family. However, on the day we returned home, she told me she wanted to talk. During that conversation, she explained that she had been unhappy for around a year and felt that she wanted us to separate.

I didn't handle the news well. I lost my temper, reacted badly, packed my bags, and left. After I had calmed down, I tried to talk things through with her, but she has refused to discuss it further. She told me that my reaction to her opening up about her feelings was unacceptable and that she doesn't think she can forgive me for it.

We've now been separated for six weeks and have had very little contact. I've been trying to focus on doing what's best for myself and our children, but I'm struggling with feelings of loneliness, rejection, and worthlessness.

Yesterday, she reached out, and we had the first normal conversation we've had since the separation. I was hoping she might contact me again today, but I haven't heard anything. At the moment, I'm choosing not to initiate contact because I want to give her space and keep any communication low-pressure.

Do you think this is the right approach?

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