Hello chaps. Having a bad day today! Finding I’m replaying everything that’s happened over the last 3 weeks, which is really grinding me down. At the weekend, my wife and I agreed to tell our younger children (13 and 8 year old) that we are living separately to make sure that everyone stays happy, that I was staying at their uncle’s house. We both stayed strong during that conversation, but afterwards the reality hit me, and it’s felt like another huge loss, not being able to see them everyday is truly devastating. I felt I’d moved forwards with my emotions, but I’ve definitely gone backwards and feel like I’m starting all over again. My wife is carrying on like nothing has happened, or she’s just putting on a brave face, I don’t know. I have been doing the same, especially when in her company. Every time I leave the house, I just feel broken. Sorry to vent.

We ended uo having a 2 hour conversation last night to after I rang her to say night to the kids... not even sure how the conversation happened it just flowed naturally... But I ended up asked her if she missed me, She doesnt miss me, because i annoyed her when I was there, she had to pay for everything and finacially support me. The house was messy when she got home... and its nice to have thay peace. I Asked her what she missed about us, she laughed at first. Knew exactly what she was thinking about. (Sex) But apart from that she said nothing else... things were good when they were good but then they werent. Explained a few things i missed, and she eventually came out with. She missed cheese board nights...but that's all I got out of her... its something I suppose.... Talked a bit about how she doesnt trust me anymore. And she said she doesnt, but she tried to stop checking my messaged and my socials because it wasnt healthy. I asked if there was any scenarios where she didnt trust me since skylar was born. At first she said no, but then eventually mentioned only two things that she didnt like was when I went out with dom, my mate who was a bad influence on me. She didnt teust me when i went out with him a few times, - i tried to reasure her and say i unserstand how you feel given my past with him, and what hes said and ive done to hurt you. But i tried to accommodate your emotions when i did go out with him. I didnt drink (excessively to the point where i was a dick) and i. Came home at a reasonabke time. Baaically sober, so i was in control still. And when we went out for bretts birthday.(her cousin) we both got really drunk that night. And apparently I was horrible to the taxi driver.... she also said that that situation, because I didnt remeber it. I didnt apologise because in my words "I can't apologise for something I didnt know that happenee" which I totally get, and I affirmed her that I was wrong for doing that. And apologised last night for it.

So me and the wife have been having good conversations over the weekend. Like really good back and forth chats! Which is a positive as she was completely shutting me off last week! She even asked if I was ok yesterday. So me being an idiot tried to talk about the relationship and well guess what im back to square one! She told me shes completely done! I have sent her a message tonight and I just want to know what you guys think of it. Message below ^^^^^^^^ Okay, so I appreciate that you probably don't want to call or discuss us right now. I completely understand how you've been feeling and how our relationship has affected you over the last year. I know that right now you feel that being apart is the best decision for you, and I respect that. I agree that we both have things we need to work on before there could ever be any chance of things working between us again. I've made mistakes, and I know I haven't handled any of this well. I've struggled with my emotions and there are things I wish I had done differently. The person I want to be is the person I've been trying to be this last week – emotionally available, calmer, and focused on what matters most. I know one good week isn't enough to rebuild trust or show that any changes are permanent. All I can do is keep doing the work, stay consistent, and be the best person I can be for myself, for the kids, and for the people I care about. I don't need to tell you about that progress; over time you'll see it for yourself. I hope that, whatever happens in the future, you'll be able to see how much I love and care about you, and that my feelings for you have always been genuine. I don't want to put any pressure on you. I respect your feelings and your decision, and I genuinely hope you have a lovely evening. X

Hi guys, I've just heard some bad news. I won't bore you with the whole conversation that led up to it, but we ended up talking this morning. I'm going to a car show with her sister today, so I rang her and asked if she wanted to come along and bring the kids. She said she'd let me know and message me later, so I said okay, go get a shower and get ready. A little while later, she messaged me saying, "Hi, I need to talk to you. I don't know whether you want to do it in person or over FaceTime, but you're not going to like it." Instantly, I had an idea what it might be. I've had a gut feeling for a while that something may have happened. She told me she'd slept with someone. She slept with a guy called Brad, who is one of her neighbours. Our kids are the same age, and when me and Tasha were together, we'd all spend time together. When we first split up, I remember having doubts and anxiety about whether anything had happened between them or whether anything ever would. She literally laughed and told me there was nothing to worry about, that nothing would ever happen between her and Brad. But it did. I didn't say much. I just sat there and took it all in while she did most of the talking. She said she didn't really have to tell me, but she felt like she needed to before I found out from someone else. She said she regrets it and that there's nothing there between them. Apparently, her, Brad, and another friend who all live on the same street have now fallen out, and she wanted me to hear it from her first. The strange thing is, I didn't get angry. I just accepted it. Part of me feels like I deserve it because of how I treated her and the mistakes I made in our relationship. Honestly, I'm not even mad. I still forgive her. I still care about her. And as crazy as it probably sounds, I still want to fix things. I simply thanked her for telling me, for being honest with me, and then I left. I don't really know what else to say.

My wife and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10 years this month. Recently, we went on a family holiday to Spain. Everything seemed great, and we had a really good time together as a family. However, on the day we returned home, she told me she wanted to talk. During that conversation, she explained that she had been unhappy for around a year and felt that she wanted us to separate. I didn't handle the news well. I lost my temper, reacted badly, packed my bags, and left. After I had calmed down, I tried to talk things through with her, but she has refused to discuss it further. She told me that my reaction to her opening up about her feelings was unacceptable and that she doesn't think she can forgive me for it. We've now been separated for six weeks and have had very little contact. I've been trying to focus on doing what's best for myself and our children, but I'm struggling with feelings of loneliness, rejection, and worthlessness. Yesterday, she reached out, and we had the first normal conversation we've had since the separation. I was hoping she might contact me again today, but I haven't heard anything. At the moment, I'm choosing not to initiate contact because I want to give her space and keep any communication low-pressure. Do you think this is the right approach?