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So me and the wife have been having good conversations over the weekend. Like really good back and forth chats! Which is a positive as she was completely shutting me off last week! She even asked if I was ok yesterday.

So me being an idiot tried to talk about the relationship and well guess what im back to square one! She told me shes completely done!

I have sent her a message tonight and I just want to know what you guys think of it.

Message below ^^^^^^^^

Okay, so I appreciate that you probably don't want to call or discuss us right now.

I completely understand how you've been feeling and how our relationship has affected you over the last year. I know that right now you feel that being apart is the best decision for you, and I respect that. I agree that we both have things we need to work on before there could ever be any chance of things working between us again.

I've made mistakes, and I know I haven't handled any of this well. I've struggled with my emotions and there are things I wish I had done differently. The person I want to be is the person I've been trying to be this last week – emotionally available, calmer, and focused on what matters most.

I know one good week isn't enough to rebuild trust or show that any changes are permanent. All I can do is keep doing the work, stay consistent, and be the best person I can be for myself, for the kids, and for the people I care about. I don't need to tell you about that progress; over time you'll see it for yourself.

I hope that, whatever happens in the future, you'll be able to see how much I love and care about you, and that my feelings for you have always been genuine.

I don't want to put any pressure on you. I respect your feelings and your decision, and I genuinely hope you have a lovely evening. X

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