What’s a piece of health advice you followed for years, only to realise later that it didn’t actually work for you? This question came up recently and it really got me thinking. I imagine, like me, most of us did exactly what we were told at the time… things like low-fat everything, being warned not to eat too many eggs because of “cholesterol”, and sugar never really being flagged as an issue as long as the fat content was low. Not to mention the heavy focus on breads and grains in our diet. Looking back now, we can see how much of that advice missed the bigger picture. These days, new guidelines are coming to light that emphasise protein and full-fat dairy, while reducing sugar, carbs and ultra-processed foods. Health advice changes. Bodies change. Life stages change. What worked in your 20s doesn’t always work in your 40s or 50s. And that doesn’t mean you got it wrong. It just means you were working with the information you had at the time. The real skill now is curiosity. Looking back on our decisions with kindness, not judgement, and being willing to adapt as we learn more. So I’d love to open this up to you…What’s a health or nutrition rule you once followed that you see differently now? And what did you learn from that experience? These conversations are powerful because they remind us we’re not alone, and that we’re all figuring this out together.

Something I see all the time is people blaming themselves for 'not being motivated enough' or 'not having enough willpower'... who's guilty of saying that!? But honestly? Most of the time, motivation isn’t the problem at all. We’re very quick to make it a personal flaw. This might sound like... 'I just need to try harder', 'I need more discipline', or 'I should be better at this by now'. But what if the issue isn’t willpower… it’s capacity? If you’re exhausted, emotionally stretched, hormonally challenged, under constant stress, or juggling a lot in life, your nervous system is already working overtime. Asking it to rely on sheer willpower on top of that is like trying to run a marathon on empty. I’ve learned this the hard way. There have been plenty of times where I wanted to do the thing… but my body or mind simply didn’t have the reserves. And beating myself up never helped. What helped was stepping back and asking better questions. Not 'what’s wrong with me?', but more 'what’s going on for me right now?' Because consistency doesn’t come from forcing yourself through resistance. It comes from creating conditions that actually support you, like enough rest, realistic expectations, the right kind of movement, emotional support, and sometimes a bit of flexibility instead of pressure. So if you’re feeling stuck right now, try this reframe: Maybe you don’t need more motivation. Maybe you need more support, more space, or a different approach. So, I’m curious… What do you usually blame when things don’t stick - motivation, discipline, or something else? And what changes when you stop blaming yourself and start looking at the bigger picture? Let’s talk about it.

Some days you wake up feeling fine, but by mid-afternoon you’re completely spent… and you can’t quite put your finger on why. Nothing major has happened, but everything feels heavier than it should. That’s often a sign of energy leaks. They’re not always obvious or dramatic. Most of the time they show up in small, everyday ways. Things like: • overcommitting when your plate is already full • replaying conversations in your head • scrolling without really resting • carrying worries that aren’t yours to carry • pushing through when your body is asking you to slow down Resilience isn’t just about how much you can handle. It’s also about how well you protect your energy so you’ve got something left for the things that matter. Doing a simple “energy audit” can be really eye-opening. Not to judge yourself or overhaul your whole life, but just to notice where your energy is going… and whether it’s coming back to you. So here’s the question I want to leave you with today... Where do you think your energy is leaking right now? And what’s one small change you could make to plug that leak? Like with so many things, awareness is a powerful starting point. Sometimes it’s all you need to begin feeling more like yourself again.

I know everyone in this community is at a different place in life. And this space isn’t about pushing or fixing or having it all figured out - it’s about learning, growth, and rebuilding together. That said, if you’re someone who’s been working on things like creating better routines, rebuilding habits after a tough season, strengthening your mindset or resilience, figuring out what your next chapter looks like and you’re feeling a bit stuck or unsure about your next step, you don’t have to sit with that on your own. I’m always open to a chat. No pressure. No agenda. Just real talk and support where I can help. If this resonates, you can: • comment “check-in” below • or message me privately Either way, I’m really glad you’re here and showing up for yourself. That alone takes courage.