The RSD struggle is real · ADHD Focus Founders

The RSD struggle is real

I’m doing everything right now to remind myself that I need to focus on facts and actions rather than my feelings when RSD starts to take over the show but I’m really struggling with it right now as I’m dealing with someone who’s communication and behaviours have gone from being consistent and clear, to being inconsistent and vague at best. It’s left me with such a sense of uncertainty and I can feel a familiar desire to provoke a fight purely to get answers and the certainty that comes with that (even if it means getting answers that I don’t like).

I’d love to know how others deal with RSD, uncertainty and more specifically how you ask people in your life for support. The sense of shame I feel for not being able to handle how disregulated I get when someone is being inconsistent, is so overwhelming.

I’m proud of myself for at least being able to notice this right now and not be acting out, but the struggle is real and the temptation to defuse myself through provoking an argument is so strong. Help! I need advice!

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