I’m doing everything right now to remind myself that I need to focus on facts and actions rather than my feelings when RSD starts to take over the show but I’m really struggling with it right now as I’m dealing with someone who’s communication and behaviours have gone from being consistent and clear, to being inconsistent and vague at best. It’s left me with such a sense of uncertainty and I can feel a familiar desire to provoke a fight purely to get answers and the certainty that comes with that (even if it means getting answers that I don’t like). I’d love to know how others deal with RSD, uncertainty and more specifically how you ask people in your life for support. The sense of shame I feel for not being able to handle how disregulated I get when someone is being inconsistent, is so overwhelming. I’m proud of myself for at least being able to notice this right now and not be acting out, but the struggle is real and the temptation to defuse myself through provoking an argument is so strong. Help! I need advice!

Hey everyone 👋Running my ecommerce business with an ADHD brain can be a mix of super focus and zero focus days 😅 Some days I’m all in, getting everything done like a pro 💪Other days… even opening my laptop feels like a big task 😂 How do you handle focus when you’ve got a lot going on? Do you take breaks, switch tasks, or just push through? Let’s share our hacks — someone might need that extra tip today 💬

If you havent booked your 15 minute call with Bill Widmer, you better go freaking do that now! Because you are doing yourself a huge dis-service if you wait. The past week I have struggled to get past the 3 paragraphs and a couple of visuals I crwated for a course I am working on. I had the main framework in place for the entire 6 month program but was stuck in the first half of the first week and hadn't even succeeded in fully fleshing out that half. My thoughts were SO FRAGMENTED because i was trying to be a perfectionist and nothing was meeting my standards. I could not for the life of me make it flow properly and kept scrapping and rewritting until I just refused to even look at the previous work and struggled to start again with any fresh ideas no matter how badly I wanted to! I was struggling internally because I had convinced myself that I needed to write this in a text book format and that I needed to figure out how to make a complementary video for each lesson, and that i needed to build backna following as a tea maker to find more people for said course and prove my knowledge, and that in the future I would have to reformat everything involved in all of that again into a school format....😫 Only for him to sit down and see all these directions I was trying to run at one time to get to the an end goal, that were trapping me in a nonproductive thought circle. We were able to re-work my approach in a way that allows me to draft my writing, test run the first draft, and format the content ALL AT ONCE! All i needed to do was just break my talking points down into smaller pieces of important relevance that i want to address for each bigger piece and then just compile that into a short form bullet list for myself to refer to while teaching real time lessons via weekly 1 on 1 video calls with my apprentice! Hold up, WHAT??? its that simple? I can identify gaps in that moment each wrrk and address them RIGHT there? I can just teach without worrying about perfecting my words ahead of time? I can record those sessions every week for the next 6 months and then clean up each video or adjust where I need to for future use? Yes. Yes I can.

Hello new friends! I'm Josh Holland, and I stumbled across here while building my own Skool (the suggested communities on the side), and it felt like the right place to jump in! I've always figured I had a level of ADHD, but was never diagnosed for it. I designed systems for myself and spent a lot of time on personal growth to keep my brain at least consistently focused on positive and things that moved my life in the direction of my goals. Lots of "If this, then" habits, rules and structure, lots of breadcrumbs (I have workout gear of some sort in nearly every room of the house and two pull up bars in different areas so I can't possibly forget), and used the hyperfocus part to become a full time music producer, guitarist, drummer, bassist, and vocalist to high levels. I became aware that I almost certainly have it last year when my dad had a stroke, and my system to maintain 20 things a day broke when adding his needs to the mix. I'm getting closer and closer to balance again, and he's been recovering well, but after watching a few Dr K videos where he interviewed creators with ADHD it resonated completely with what I've dealt with. I've been self employed for over 7 years, but that also means that I haven't had health insurance in that long since it's insanely expensive when you're not in a group, so I can't say 100% that I do, but between that and dumping my brain into Claude AI, it's also nearly certain based on my life stories and how I work and process. And if you couldn't tell already... brevity is not a strength. 🤣

When and how did you find out you had ADHD? Were you officially diagnosed? Were you an adult or a kid? Can you think of any positives that ADHD has created in your life?