In our family, we regularly say "We do hard things." It's like the Webber motto. Recently, I've decided to get back in shape. I've been going to the gym consistently for about 2 months. However, the healthy diet has been more difficult. Then, I came across the sardine fast. Yep, just eating sardines for 3-7 days. I'm on day 2 and I've lost 7 pounds. Now, in general, I like sardines. However, for every meal is a whole new experience. I'm committed to keep going. My goal is 195, I'm now at 225. What hard things are you working on? Or, what hard thing do you want to start tackling?

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I was rereading Stephen Covey's "First Things First." If you haven't read it, I recommend it. Half of the book covers the gap between how we spend our time (clock) and what's important to us (compass- going in the right direction). Many times what's urgent takes all of our attention and we neglect what's truly important. Let's put First Things First this week. For some of you, this will require a great deal of attention and intention. Where to start? Make sure the important gets its rightful time and place. Things you might deem important, but sometimes or frequently neglect: Physical exercise Spiritual exercise Spending time with loved ones Self-care Learning new things, languages, skills Getting enough sleep/rest Spending time in gratitude Showing sincere appreciation to others Quiet time, reflection, pondering etc. Home maintenance, cleaning Socializing with and serving friends and neighbors Financial planning Volunteering for or mentoring others Tell us what you're going to no longer neglect and report back.

As we age, the passing of time seems all too fast. I have 2 kids out of the house and 2 still here (for the time being). I can hear the whispers- "cherish this time...it is going by fast...create and cherish meaningful moments." Although I am sure Jere' and I will enjoy each other in new ways as empty nesters, I want to enjoy today as much as possible. One of my favorite movies is Dead Poet's Society. Robin Williams character teaches Carpe Diem to his students- Seize the Day. As I grow older, I believe this to be an important philosophy. Work on being present this week. Put down your devices. Really be available to your loved ones. Make sure they know by deed and by words their place in your life and your heart. Tell us who does this for you. Who makes you feel important every time you walk in the room? Then, work on doing this for others and tell us about your efforts.

The world offers a lot of new toys and devices for our "enjoyment." However, all the stuff has not lead to more happiness. In fact, depression and anxiety have seen massive spikes in the last decade and we have more toys than ever. Both for yourself and for your loved ones, find space to enjoy the simple. Examples- take a walk and focus on nature; sit out on the porch and just observe your surroundings; have a pleasant conversation with a friend or loved one; play an instrument or just whistle; or just enjoy watching a loved one play, laugh or smile. I love to just sit and ponder my blessings. It changes my state and allows space for contentment. My favorite undergraduate psychology professor taught me "learn to be happy where you are or you'll never be happy." We need to see and acknowledge the simple joys. Tell us where you find beauty, peace and joy in the simple.