🫩The 40-Year Mask is Getting Heavy🥱

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The most expensive thing you’ll ever own isn’t your mortgage or your car. It’s the literal physical energy it takes to pretend you’re "fine" when you’re 45 and your brain feels like a browser with 74 tabs open—half of which are frozen.

If you’re over 40 and navigating that late-diagnosis, ADHD fog, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve got the skills. You’ve got the experience. But you’re also burnt out from decades of masking just to look "professional" or "reliable" in rooms where people don't understand how executive function actually works.

So, let’s be real about what "in the weeds" looks like at this age:

The Marriage Tension: You feel like your wife is losing patience, not because she’s unkind, but because she’s tired of being the "backup brain" for the household.
The Job Grind: That five-day-a-week slow march toward a retirement that feels more like a white flag than a victory lap.
The Skill Trap: You know you’re capable of high-level work, but task paralysis has turned your potential into a source of shame rather than a source of progress.

Most people think this is a character flaw. It’s actually just the way the brain works when it’s been redlining for forty years.

I’ve spent my career as a counselor, but I’m also a man in the trenches with you. I’m not interested in "mindset" groups that just tell you to think positive while your house is on fire. I care about building systems and using tools—like AI and streamlined workflows—that actually bridge the gap between "I have an idea" and "It’s finished."

I’m looking for a few specific men who are tired of just being "members" of a group and want to be partners in a mission. Men who have skills they want to finally monetize or stabilize, and who want to stop guessing what to do next.

I’ve got the tools and the clinical background to help us stop the "slow leak" of our time and energy. I’m building a space where we actually build things together, rather than just talking about how hard it is.

If you’re tired of the mask and ready to work with your brain instead of against it, I’m looking for you.

What’s the one area where your ADHD feels most "expensive" right now—is it the tension at home, or the feeling that you’re running out of clock at work?

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