They say 'Cluttered desk, cluttered mind.' I say 'Clean desk, empty mind.' If I put my notebook in a drawer to make my office look 'minimalist,' I will literally forget that project exists for three months. I need my 'piles.' I need my visual cues. My 'mess' is actually my external hard drive. "Where do you stand? Are you a 'Minimalist Desk' person or a 'Visual Pile' person? Post a photo or describe your chaos below—I need to know I’m not alone in this! 📁 If you're over 40 with ADHD, Join Here 😉

If you’re 40+ with ADHD and feeling the sensory burnout, we’re focusing on regulation over "hustle" inside my new group. Come hang out here 🤗

You spent all your "focus capital" at work just to stay afloat. Now you’re home, the kids need help, the laundry is a mountain, and you’re standing in the pantry staring at a box of crackers because you forgot why you walked in there. ​Whether you’re diagnosed or just "suspect it," the shame of being an adult who "should have it together by now" is exhausting. ​I built a Skool community for us. No fake stuff. No "hustle" tips. Just real strategies to stop the 4:00 PM burnout and manage the 40+ ADHD brain. ​Join the chaos (and find some calm)

I have the amazing opportunity to announce that @Mimi Ramsey has agreed to join us all the way from Bali, so we now pretty much have 24/7 moderator support for this amazing community. Mimi is an absolute powerhouse when it comes to building communities that are full of personality and that represent your unique uniqueness! I'm really excited that she has agree to join the team, and I can't wait to have her present her own masterclass for you all. In addition, I want to sincerely thank @Mona Weathers for all of her work as the first CLASSIFIEDS moderator. She believed in this group from day one, championed it, and helped me build it into what it is today! Mona has had such incredible success in her own community that she has had to step down as moderator here so that she can support her own members fully, but she is still here, and you will still see her around. 😊 As you already know, @Faith Adebayo recently joined the moderator team and has been doing an incredible job supporting everyone in the comments and most especially bringing us very valuable information through her masterclass about how to increase our visibility through our CLASSIFIEDS posts! Faith will continue to work with me and Mimi as we have now grown to a team of 3!!! Please help me congratulate the effervescent @Mimi Ramsey on her new role!

The most expensive thing you’ll ever own isn’t your mortgage or your car. It’s the literal physical energy it takes to pretend you’re "fine" when you’re 45 and your brain feels like a browser with 74 tabs open—half of which are frozen. ​If you’re over 40 and navigating that late-diagnosis, ADHD fog, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve got the skills. You’ve got the experience. But you’re also burnt out from decades of masking just to look "professional" or "reliable" in rooms where people don't understand how executive function actually works. ​So, let’s be real about what "in the weeds" looks like at this age: - ​The Marriage Tension: You feel like your wife is losing patience, not because she’s unkind, but because she’s tired of being the "backup brain" for the household. - ​The Job Grind: That five-day-a-week slow march toward a retirement that feels more like a white flag than a victory lap. - ​The Skill Trap: You know you’re capable of high-level work, but task paralysis has turned your potential into a source of shame rather than a source of progress. ​Most people think this is a character flaw. It’s actually just the way the brain works when it’s been redlining for forty years. ​I’ve spent my career as a counselor, but I’m also a man in the trenches with you. I’m not interested in "mindset" groups that just tell you to think positive while your house is on fire. I care about building systems and using tools—like AI and streamlined workflows—that actually bridge the gap between "I have an idea" and "It’s finished." ​I’m looking for a few specific men who are tired of just being "members" of a group and want to be partners in a mission. Men who have skills they want to finally monetize or stabilize, and who want to stop guessing what to do next. ​I’ve got the tools and the clinical background to help us stop the "slow leak" of our time and energy. I’m building a space where we actually build things together, rather than just talking about how hard it is.