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Welcome to Behind the Pattern 💎
I'm so glad you're here. This post is your map to the community. 📚 THE CLASSROOM - In here you'll find: - The Pattern Protocol: the method for the moment you're triggered, in five stages. Please don't rush it. Do one stage, use it in real life, then move on to the next. - Video library: every weekly session is recorded and added here. In case you can;t make it for the live session, you can catch up here. 📆 WEEKLY GROUP SESSIONS I'll be hosting weekly group coaching on your real-life situations. Dates are in the Calendar. If you can't make it live, you'll find the recording in the Classroom to watch in your own time. 🤝THE COMMUNITY - Ask Tebogo: post your question and I'll reply personally, within 48 hours on weekdays. - Achievements & Wins: share every time you chose your response instead of your pattern. Small wins counts. - General discussion and Help and support: for everything else. 👋 OUR WELCOME EVENT This will take place on Wednesday 4 November, 7pm SAST, live inside the community. 💡 WANT 1:1 SUPPORT? The Clarity Session is a personalised 90-minute one-to-one with me that you get at members-only pricing.. We address challenges you're facing with your individual pattern. I'll show you what might be in your blindspot and keeping you stuck, and how to address it. ⏭️ NEXT STEP Introduce yourself using the Welcome & Intros category: tell us the pattern that keeps showing up for you. Share only what you're comfortable with and what's appropriate for the group to hear. Speak to you soon! Tebogo 🌻
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📢 Founding Member Update + New Course Dropping
🎉 QUICK MILESTONE UPDATE: As promised, the founding $15 spots officially closed this morning, and the community is now $27/month for new members. Thank you again for being the original members locked in at $15 for as long as you stay in the community. 🙌 🥳 Now that you're using the Pattern Protocol and practicing healthier ways of meeting your needs, we are taking the next step together over the next week. 📚 NEW COURSE DROPPING: I'm adding a brand-new course to help you communicate in a clear, non-triggering way so you actually feel heard. Regulating yourself and choosing healthier ways to meet your needs is essential for breaking old patterns, but sometimes, getting your needs met requires asking other people. I know how intimidating that can feel. That’s why this course will help you become the kind of person who can voice what you need without shutting down, people-pleasing, or getting defensive. 💬 BEFORE I UPLOAD THE FIRST MODULE: Drop a comment below and tell me 👇 What is the hardest situation for you right now when it comes to speaking up about a need or boundary? I'll make sure I cover your exact scenarios inside the lessons. P.S. I'm working on something in the background to reward participation... 😉
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Hello 👋🏾
Ntuthu in Jhb. I guess the patterns that keep showing up for me are that when things start to feel a little uncertain I go back in the past and think of various could haves, should haves scenarios - aargh. Also any start of a relationship, once I feel obligations start building up - I pull away and cut off. I also noticed I do endless To Do lists. Which is ordinarily not a bad this but they keep building up as I get the satisfaction of ticking off. It helps me feel in control in the moment, but it also keeps me stuck because I then don’t actually consume my present fully. And try to control the future as well.
7d •
Day One of Behind the Pattern! 🤍
I hope you've started exploring the space. It's going to evolve with time. I'm so glad you'll be a part of that. I’ll be sharing little tasks here every now and then. They’re always optional, but this is a space that gets better the more we show up in it. 🎯 Today’s task is simple: introduce yourself in a post. Tell us who you are, where you’re writing from, and, if you’re comfortable, what made you say yes to joining. I’m so excited that we already have members from 3 different continents. It shows this work is universal, and I’d love to see where everyone is joining from! 🌍 We also have alumni in here who completed an 8-12 week 1:1 mentorship with me. 🔥 They already know the principles of breaking unhealthy patterns and are now doing the work to maintain what they’ve built. If their questions or contributions sound a little advanced, don’t be alarmed. It’s a signal that this is someone you can learn from. 😉 I’m looking forward to seeing you all at the Welcome Event on Wednesday! 🚀🚀
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Weird pattern response
Something weird happened just this morning. So my partner told me he is exhausted of the loop I have been telling him about that we keep finding ourselves in. Instead of me saying I told you the same thing over and over which is a pattern I usually fall into reminding them that I told them I felt this and been dismissed; instead today I just laughed. Not in front of him but in my head and just kept quiet 😫 now I feel bad and falling into the pattern of self blame
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