🎉 QUICK MILESTONE UPDATE: As promised, the founding $15 spots officially closed this morning, and the community is now $27/month for new members. Thank you again for being the original members locked in at $15 for as long as you stay in the community. 🙌 🥳 Now that you're using the Pattern Protocol and practicing healthier ways of meeting your needs, we are taking the next step together over the next week. 📚 NEW COURSE DROPPING: I'm adding a brand-new course to help you communicate in a clear, non-triggering way so you actually feel heard. Regulating yourself and choosing healthier ways to meet your needs is essential for breaking old patterns, but sometimes, getting your needs met requires asking other people. I know how intimidating that can feel. That’s why this course will help you become the kind of person who can voice what you need without shutting down, people-pleasing, or getting defensive. 💬 BEFORE I UPLOAD THE FIRST MODULE: Drop a comment below and tell me 👇 What is the hardest situation for you right now when it comes to speaking up about a need or boundary? I'll make sure I cover your exact scenarios inside the lessons. P.S. I'm working on something in the background to reward participation... 😉

I hope you've started exploring the space. It's going to evolve with time. I'm so glad you'll be a part of that. I’ll be sharing little tasks here every now and then. They’re always optional, but this is a space that gets better the more we show up in it. 🎯 Today’s task is simple: introduce yourself in a post. Tell us who you are, where you’re writing from, and, if you’re comfortable, what made you say yes to joining. I’m so excited that we already have members from 3 different continents. It shows this work is universal, and I’d love to see where everyone is joining from! 🌍 We also have alumni in here who completed an 8-12 week 1:1 mentorship with me. 🔥 They already know the principles of breaking unhealthy patterns and are now doing the work to maintain what they’ve built. If their questions or contributions sound a little advanced, don’t be alarmed. It’s a signal that this is someone you can learn from. 😉 I’m looking forward to seeing you all at the Welcome Event on Wednesday! 🚀🚀

Ntuthu in Jhb. I guess the patterns that keep showing up for me are that when things start to feel a little uncertain I go back in the past and think of various could haves, should haves scenarios - aargh. Also any start of a relationship, once I feel obligations start building up - I pull away and cut off. I also noticed I do endless To Do lists. Which is ordinarily not a bad this but they keep building up as I get the satisfaction of ticking off. It helps me feel in control in the moment, but it also keeps me stuck because I then don’t actually consume my present fully. And try to control the future as well.

I've uploaded the Welcome Event recording as promised, so you can go into the classroom to have a watch.You'll find it in the Video Library. I'll look into finding a better quality means of recording for the visual part of it. Might consider the native Skool meeting platform for our next event. Speak soon!💛

I had so much fun meeting everyone at the Welcome Event yesterday!🎉 I'm excited about the upcoming sessions 😊 EVENT RECORDING: For those who weren't able to attend, or if you just want to rewatch the session, I'm uploading the recording to the Video Library tomorrow (Fri 06 Nov) before the end of the day. QUESTIONS FROM THE EVENT There was a question that was asked during the event which I promised to give more thought to and provide feedback on. It was the one about the difference between a state and an emotion. I've recorded a video to answer it and posted it to my social media accounts, but in case you missed it, I've attached it to this post as well. Shout out to @Tumelo Mohale for the great question! ADDITIONAL COURSE As promised, I'm compiling a communication course to support you, so you can cruise through those difficult conversations.😎 I'm prioritising having it ready within the next 2 weeks. I'll announce it as soon as it's uploaded to the classroom. This is one of my favourites by the way, it's super practical. 🙌 In the meantime, enjoy the video below! 🎥