@Catherine Hickem - I am going to bare my soul here. I’m truly wondering as I’m moving through the PACT content if this program can address the complex issues within my family. I shared my concern with the onboarding individual I spoke with, and she assured me that it would. Firstly, I am separated from my spouse of 37 years due to a very unhealthy relationship I stayed with for religious reasons and was not able to leave until I was able to address religious trauma and deconstruct. My children experienced a very dysfunctional / unhealthy upbringing due to the religion. My “spouse” is very manipulative with my children, and I was labeled the “bad one” for leaving. Someone had to “stop the insanity” and chaos. I mentioned in the PACT call this evening that my daughter has been married to a Russian orphan for 15 years who has caused significant issues in our family dynamic over the years. We have shown him compassion and grace, and he has done nothing but take advantage of our kindness and patience. HIs own adopted family has not had contact with him for many years due to his behaviors. He has worked very hard to attempt to isolate our daughter from us and has had periods of success in doing so. I very much want to have a healthy relationship with her, and the request from her is “to let the past be the past”. This has been an ongoing pattern as his behavior patterns continue repeatedly, so “the past” consists of 15 years including recent events. He is resistant to treatment, and my daughter has to carry all the responsibilities, as he can’t hold a job and doesn’t work … staying home smoking weed and playing video games. She has stated off and on that she is going to divorce him and doesn’t follow through. She has done therapy and various healing modalities and continues to be manipulated by him. I have been estranged from my oldest son from a teen marriage for over 6 years now. He is an abusive man, and his children have suffered significant trauma. One of his children died due to his negligence. I have no confidence that my relationship with my grandchildren can be restored as he has turned my grandchildren who I once had a very close relationship with against my family.

Catherine shared , "Healthy Assertiveness is having clarity" she asked us to rate our assertiveness on a scale from 0-10, thinking of a conversation we had with our Adult child. Where we would be on the scale and where do we think they are on that same scale. I know this may be odd. I said "2" for the both of us. As we both going into protective mode-so some areas we don't go there. It really has to do with my son and her brother who died from the complications related to a suicide attempt over years ago.

sorry Ill come back for the evening class today I just cant follow it today and missed the begining as the souund was too loud then too low and i went to the cell to try but its too much chaos for me now . Thank you so m,uch for your time

Hi Tracey! Your information on the LIVE CALL was clear, informative and encouraging as it reinforces parent's to continue to do the work that has been gifted to us through the P.A.R.E.N.T Method. There is hope and gratitude for the end of our story, or perhaps the beginning!?

In this class, Tracey, who is one of my newest team members, joins me as we discuss various lessons that are key for parents of adult children to ponder, Tracey, a successful licensed counselor, will be a coach for us at PACT and will also be leading some of our classes. This recording gives members an opportunity to recognize the depth of her expertise while experiencing the gentleness of her heart and the authenticity of her life. Welcome to the family, Tracey!