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Welcome to The P.A.R.E.N.T. Method!
Hello Parent, I am so excited you are here! We are going on a journey together that will help you create the relationship with your adult child you have always wanted. Parenting in this season is not for the faint of heart and I know from personal and professional experience what it takes to be a successful parent to adult kids. You are already ahead of the curve. You are here, hungry to learn, and wanting to grow! Your children are fortunate to have a parent like you who is teachable and willing to invest in your relationship with them. There is no ceiling on a parent who is committed to being the best version of themselves and you will learn on this journey how to be who your child needs you to be: Accepting, emotionally safe, and worthy of trust. Parenting is about you and how you show up in the relationship, not how your children turn out. This is your journey so take whatever time you need to walk through this framework. I have helped parents for over 40 years and I have implemented what you will see and hear with my own adult children, who are in their 40's. I will take you through this process step by step so you know exactly how to incorporate these skills and insights into your life. I want you to be kind to yourself as you start this process. There are millions of parents who have the same questions so take comfort in knowing you are not alone. The good news is that now you are a part of a community who will learn together how to parent adults with confidence and grace. Thanks again for being a part of the P.A.R.E.N.T. Method community. Let's get started! Warmly, Catherine
7d •
Don't Write the End of the Story
When parents struggle with their adult children, it is easy to get scared and think about the "what ifs" in their relationship with them. Fear often becomes the driver in our thinking and actions, which only pushes us further away from our goal of connecting. It is important for us to stay present in the moment we are in. I know this is hard for some of us to do because we can be planners and dreamers. Some of also have past unhealed trauma, making us more hypervigilant and reactive to possibilities instead of facts. We owe it to ourselves and our children to stay open to growth, learning, and change. How would you identify your comfortability with change? Do you live in the fear of the future? What work do you need to prioritize to be fully present in this moment?
18d •
Are You Paying Attention?
If you have made it to the 2nd module. you have learned why a pause is key to good decision-making. In a digital world, we have access to information and communication in a nano second. The problem is we fall into the trap of reacting instead of listening and being curious. A couple of times this week I heard parents comment about how a child would make a passing remark about the past. It might sound like " I don't know why you didn't protect me from (fill in the blank)" or "You always favored ( a sibling)." If our adult children are still making comments about what happened when they lived at home, then we have to practice the pause. Moments like this reveal the unfinished business in our relationship and are worthy of further exploration. One of the reasons I encourage people to step back and slow down is most of the time adult children tell us the problems in our relationship but do not recognize them for the meaning they have. When issues are underground for years, they will build until they implode. Avoidance, less frequent visits, and superficial conversations are just a few signs the underlying hints not being heard or understood by us. Take some time to pause and reflect about past conversations and interactions with your kids. As you recall them, write down comments they repeat or themes they bring up from the past. It will help you when you are working through the modules, especially the one that discusses curiosity and asking questions.
4d •
Welcome!!!
Everyone, please give Helen a warm welcome. She’s coming in with a really open heart, a lot of honesty, and a genuine desire to grow. What’s especially amazing about her is how deeply she loves her daughter and grandkids and how much this journey truly matters to her. She also brings a lot of humility, faith, and courage, which is such a powerful combination. We’re really happy to have you here, Helen. @Helen Peterson <3
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