Gentlemen — quick favor. We’re turning these cheat sheets into a free lead magnet, so they need to be: - Simple - Engaging - Impossible to misunderstand - Free of dumb mistakes 😅 - ✅ Your mission: 1. Vote for the cheat sheet style you like MOST 2. Comment if you spot any glaring mistakes (wording, confusing points, wrong advice, missing steps, etc.) 3. What you’d change to make it more “16-year-old clear” 4. One thing that made it feel more “badass” / memorable

Most guys don’t lose points because of big mistakes… they lose points because of one tiny detail that quietly screams “I didn’t finish the job.” If you had to pick one detail that makes (or breaks) the whole look, what matters most? Vote - and drop in the comments why you chose it. Bonus: if you’ve ever been called out on one of these, tell us which one got you.

I woke up this morning and saw that In had reached Level 9!! I am completely Humbled. While I have been in these communities for only a few months, I have met (virtually) so many wonderful people that are so generous with their time and knowledge. The interactions are always positive and thought provoking! (which is rare these days) and I thank @Antonio Centeno @Antonio O. Centeno @Antonio Cent for keeping the no A-Hole policy in force!! This is truly a place where we can be individuals with our own version of classic style, but also help others early in their journey. It is truly a blessing. I am honored to have made it to level 9 even though I still feel like an imposter! That being said I want to thank everyone who I've interacted with! But specifically @John Witvoet and @James Milson and @Sean Kavanaugh for starting a rally cry to push me over the top. I was unaware how close I was and am truly humbled for their help. There is also the literal TON of people thatI really enjoy seeing their posts everyday and our conversations. @Jesse Alonzo , @Brian McGuire , @Raymond Reeves , @Anthony Buntyn , @Chad Smith , @Banjo Piggott Wright , @Michael McDonnell @William Feldtmose & @Robert Meyers ! I'm sure I've missed several of you, but please take my vote of thanks as well!! I am honored to be here with ALL of you and sitting at the General's table with the greats in this community is something that I am very proud of! Thank you ALL!! and I look forward to carrying the torch in the most honorable way I can!!

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Yesterday I buried my mother, she was 84 years old and had been sick for a while. It was expected, but still a shock when it happened. I'm not there yet, but I know it will hit me. The grief! The sorrow! And being me (I'm a list-and-plans guy), this is me trying to find a way through it all. I write this for me, but maybe it can help others. I believe grief is not a problem to be solved. It is a landscape you are suddenly forced to live in, one that looks different every day. When a mother dies, the loss cuts deeper than the absence of a person; it is the loss of an anchor, a witness to your life, a voice that knew your name before anyone else did. Grief, in this sense, is not only sorrow—it is love with nowhere to go. Working in a hospital, I've learned that one of the hardest truths about grief is that it does not move in a straight line. It arrives in waves. Some days are quiet and manageable; others feel unbearable for reasons you cannot explain. A smell, a phrase, a moment of silence can bring the weight back instantly. This unpredictability can make people feel broken, as if they are “doing grief wrong.” But grief’s inconsistency is not a failure—it is evidence that the bond mattered. Sorrow often brings guilt alongside pain. Guilt for words unsaid, for moments of impatience, for not having loved “well enough.” The mind replays scenes, searching for alternate endings. Yet this is a cruel illusion. Relationships are lived forward, not perfected in hindsight. Love is not measured by flawlessness, but by presence over time. Imperfect love is still real love. Grief also isolates. Others may want to help but feel unsure how; some disappear altogether. Society is uncomfortable with deep sorrow and often rushes toward solutions: “Be strong,” “She wouldn’t want you to be sad,” “Time heals.” These phrases, though well-intended, can feel like erasure. Grief does not need to be fixed. It needs to be witnessed. Sometimes the bravest thing is allowing yourself to say, honestly, “This hurts, and I am not okay.”