Hey everyone I hope someone can relate to this. I have a foster daughter who has been facing four different traumas has been very difficult for me as a foster mother and wife. i’ve done all I can to do now wish your love and kindness to my 13 1/2 -year-old daughter. she has faced a missed childhood due to a bandit. Mother are not so good dad which is a father womb sexual abuse and pregnancy at the age of 11. when I first met her at 12, which is about a year ago, she was friendly to me and everything and now it’s like been a roller coaster to fast forward where she has gotten used to me to do some things together and then it when she’s under my husband or she becomes a little bit more attached and then feel like I her mood swings are not good at all. It’s like the way I talk to her like say for example I say hello or good morning. She gets an attitude with me for no reason and then she’ll give my husband a hug and say good morning daddy also keep in mind. Her mind is like a 9/10-year-old child inside because of her lost childhood so that’s another type of trauma as well and she has to catch up in school so she’s in special classes, but she is very smart especially for 13 year-old but she has another side of her. That’s that 9/10-year-old girl sometimes. she does her own hair and stuff, and sometimes she lets me curl her hair which gives me and spends time with me and it has been become more and more with me but as of this week, it wasn’t all that good. if I spend on her room and say I need to get somewhere and she’s like where are you going? she became a daddy‘s girl so she has been so clingy to my husband, but has she got older as become a little bit less. Cause all my question is, how can I deal and I with you sending messages that she loves me and when I try to give her a hug sometimes she doesn’t want to look, but she lights up like a Christmas tree and give my husband hugs, and sometimes she makes me feel invisible. But gives all her attention to my husband and wants more affection from him like she can become overly affectionate. So my question is after showing her love and kindness and her having these outburst Moody swings how can I really deal with this? how long do you think this is going to take?