Hey everyone I hope someone can relate to this. I have a foster daughter who has been facing four different traumas has been very difficult for me as a foster mother and wife. i’ve done all I can to do now wish your love and kindness to my 13 1/2 -year-old daughter. she has faced a missed childhood due to a bandit. Mother are not so good dad which is a father womb sexual abuse and pregnancy at the age of 11. when I first met her at 12, which is about a year ago, she was friendly to me and everything and now it’s like been a roller coaster to fast forward where she has gotten used to me to do some things together and then it when she’s under my husband or she becomes a little bit more attached and then feel like I her mood swings are not good at all. It’s like the way I talk to her like say for example I say hello or good morning. She gets an attitude with me for no reason and then she’ll give my husband a hug and say good morning daddy also keep in mind. Her mind is like a 9/10-year-old child inside because of her lost childhood so that’s another type of trauma as well and she has to catch up in school so she’s in special classes, but she is very smart especially for 13 year-old but she has another side of her. That’s that 9/10-year-old girl sometimes. she does her own hair and stuff, and sometimes she lets me curl her hair which gives me and spends time with me and it has been become more and more with me but as of this week, it wasn’t all that good. if I spend on her room and say I need to get somewhere and she’s like where are you going? she became a daddy‘s girl so she has been so clingy to my husband, but has she got older as become a little bit less. Cause all my question is, how can I deal and I with you sending messages that she loves me and when I try to give her a hug sometimes she doesn’t want to look, but she lights up like a Christmas tree and give my husband hugs, and sometimes she makes me feel invisible. But gives all her attention to my husband and wants more affection from him like she can become overly affectionate. So my question is after showing her love and kindness and her having these outburst Moody swings how can I really deal with this? how long do you think this is going to take?

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Hey ladies. I hope your day is blessed. I'm happily married and have a son who doesn't live with us anymore so we have decided we wanted another child. So I'm in a situation where we got a foster child at 12 1/2 years old. We prayed about it and decided to take her in. So I have noticed she used to be at my husbands youth shelter a couple of years back and knows my husband. Sadly she was raped by her stepfather and had a baby at 10!!! She doesn't have the baby right now. So when she came into our home, she was so sweet. Then it came to pass that I've noticed that she has been so clingy to my husband!!! I'm like wait a minute!! We had a talk with her about showing me love the same way as him and I've developed a relationship with her but it's not really the same. For example when I sit down on the couch and my hubby is in the kitchen, guess where she goes? I'm there was a time where she has fallen asleep with my husband! But I tried to get her to open up to me and one night she fell asleep on me. I thought we had we were great. We went out town for her birthday and she held my hand. Recently she turned 13 and likes to play with my husband more than me. She's always up under him. I've literally broken down and cried and like what did I do? I always wanted a daughter who will love me like shevsays she does. It's like she is wishy washy. But she did tell me she never had a mother that she spent some time with and I told her I want to be that mother for her. I don't get if she understands.i guess she will be a daddy's girl like my son is a mother's boy. But I still want the hugs and kisses she gives my husband. I feel like I'm fighting more for my husband Ms affection because of her! What can I do about this? I've talked about this several times and it's like he does understand from my prospective! I wish we could see a family therapist!

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