What are your thoughts on this: ✔️ More visibilty ✔️ More connections ✔️ More growth (your members, your community!) ✔️ More focus on the real value you are providing! ❌ Not being active all the time ❌ Not having to be everywhere ❌ Less promoting ❌ Less building alone... I am as confused as you are about the options below by the way. Gotta love Australian English! Can the Aussies here please correct me if I am wrong, I wouldn't be surprised there's more to it.😜

Most single parents of teen sons think the issue is too much screen time. So they take the phone away, set limits, or argue about it. And nothing changes. The problem with this is screens are just a symptom. Your son isn't glued to his phone because he's lazy. He's there because the real world feels harder, lonelier, and less rewarding than the digital one. This leads to him pulling further away, losing confidence, and missing the exact years where he should be building the social skills that will carry him for the rest of his life. After helping Ali build real confidence through weekly real-world sessions, and helping Adam go from avoidant to socially proactive, here's what I'd do instead: The Lighthouse Method. This is because instead of fighting the screen, you give him something better. Real-world missions, daily check-ins, and direct mentorship that builds confidence through action, not conversation. Which leads to a son who initiates, connects, and actually wants to engage with the world around him. You can think about it like this: Do you want to keep fighting him over his phone with nothing changing? Or would you prefer to watch him put it down on his own because real life finally feels worth showing up for? If you prefer the latter, I'll see you inside Lighthouse Sons 🌱

You could say I've seen a few things over the years in my career. - I've broken up physical fights between students, - I've had flowers and wine delivered to me from parents as a thank you for teaching their child. - I've had police contact me because a student is listed as a missing person and hasn't been seen for days. - I've received hugs from students at the end of the year (and I'm not a hugger at all with students!), - I've been vomited on, sworn at and threatened verbally. - I've had school refusers respond to my modified timetables and work loads with success and return to school full time. - I've gone up against school Principals to overturn or back down on a decision against a student. - I've referred parents to the esafety commissioner to take down inappropriate images of students. - I've protected students from their parent/s. - I've seen a few pregnancies and helped discreetly with whatever decision was made. - I've made numerous mandatory reports. - I've suggested students take out AVO's and intervention orders against other families. - I've given my lunch to a hungry student more times than I can remember. - I've had students deal with death and grief, not only of a family member, but also of another student in the school. - I've had students with anger management issues, come and find me in my classroom right before they were about to punch someone, because they remembered my words and request. - I've had students with anxiety, request to be in my class, because I make them feel safe. - I've taken on more students that I should in my classes because "I can handle them." This list is not exhaustive. Every job has it's issues and pressures. Just know that behind every post I make, every podcast episode I record and every piece of advice given for free in my community; is delivered with 20 years of experience and possibly someone else's child in mind that I've dealt with, in a similar situation. Some days are better than others, but when we lead with connection first, everything turns out as it should. 🥰

Hot take: most communities don’t have an engagement problem, they have an over-helping problem. When everything feels like self-improvement, people lurk. When it feels like play, they show up. Not sure where the line is yet though.

Or focus more on making them aware of their problem and maximizing the pain so they feel more of an urge to seek you out? Asking because it stands to reason that you lose momentum in your CTA if you previously gave people actionable problem-solving advice.