Lots of good tips here.

Hi, I‘m Loraine. I have been on a mission of discovery for the last five years. After a brutal discard by a person I was sharing my life with for 11 years. Weirdly, on the night he terminated our relationship, I told him I would write my story. The thought came into my head and out of my mouth within seconds. I had no idea that I had been in an abusive relationship until post-separation. I knew nothing about hidden forms of abuse. At the end of 2020, I had watched so many videos and read so many articles about narcissistic abuse and coercive control that I should have been awarded a PHD. 🤣🤣 I started writing my story in April 2021. This was when I was starting to recover from the shock and grief of the discard. It took me until May 2022 to complete and self-publish. I had no idea how to write and publish a book, but somehow I did it. While writing, I was under extreme emotional manipulation and legal intimidation from the former partner. He had promised security in retirement with a financial settlement that he termed a gift. He made a promise to share the Spanish home 50/50 so I would be able to start my life over in Spain with the security of a house purchased outright. I also had a pension asset in the UK, a small rented property that I could use as my income after the mortgage was redeemed. Within six days of the generous offers, I was threatened. He turned into the angry monster I had seen before, only this time much more intimidating. I was threatened, "Do not F*** about with me. I‘m in control, you do as I say or I can throw you out onto the streets." It got worse. The book I wrote was something I never imagined I would be writing about. The four-sentence discard speech was bad enough, but what followed was threats, intimidation, humiliation, verbal abuse and verbal aggression on a scale I had never experienced before. I titled my first book "Post-Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment, What Type of Man?" I didn‘t use my real name to protect myself, and I didn‘t use the real names of the solicitors involved or the ex-partner.

@Tina Woods Thank you, I just ordered the Start Over volume 5 after browsing the classroom. I‘m finally on my starting over journey after five years of madness, trauma and chaos, most of which I was blamed for by the system. Weird how victims are disbelieved and then blamed. But I realised that I was in fear, trauma, and grief, which led to anger. Anger is the saving point as it lifts you from the lowest emotional energy vibrations. I used "truth" as the highest emotional energy vibration.

Thank you for sharing the Podcast @Tina Woods I really enjoyed our chat the other day.