Happy Self Care Sunday. The sun is out in London which is always exciting as i know i spend too much time inside with the work that I do so today ill be going for walks and reading in the garden. But first yoga, workout and meditation. Im all packed and ready to fly to Tunisa tomorrow for my birthday, im excited to get my feet in sand, swim and relax. Deep breaths, dropping into my body and listening to the ocean, to nature, feeling the warm sun on my skin will give me a sense of wellbeing i havent had for a while so im excited for that. What does your Self Care Sunday and plans ahead look like? Are you building in ways to fill your cup or just building a to do list to bosh through with no you time (if so please relook at that). Tx

Now include: This is a community space for healing. If you would like to work through something specifically please book a coaching call with me or a free discovery call. If you are feeling very disregulated, suicidal or in need of urgent support please see the helplines below. Get yourself the help and support you need and look after yourself. Your safety is important to me and this community. Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=945644317&gbraid=0AAAAAD-VeVGcIzENhpOtQMPlpmB3N1Q4s&gclid=CjwKCAjw14zPBhAuEiwAP3-Eb9FzJ_C6idRkP8pKKGQZ38FHgCYQExXw91VLODlKIsivTXR28nKOzxoC2ocQAvD_BwE Solace https://www.solacewomensaid.org/ Met police advice https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/daa/domestic-abuse/support-organisations/

One thing that doesn’t get spoken about enough on the healing path… is the purge. When you begin doing deep shadow work—observing your patterns, your triggers, your behaviours—you’re not just “learning” about yourself… You are changing yourself. And change at this level often comes with a release. Purging is part of ego death. Its what happens when an old version of you begins to dissolve. The jealous part. The controlling part. The “I’m not good enough” belief. The voice that says you’re not smart, not worthy, not safe. These aren’t just thoughts… they’re patterns your nervous system has practiced for years—sometimes decades. So when you start to see them clearly… and choose differently…Something has to move. That movement can look like: – Crying out of nowhere – Deep emotional releases – Feeling nauseous or physically sick – Fasting or losing appetite – Sweating (saunas, heat, detox) – Exhaustion or needing more rest – Old memories surfacing – A strong urge to withdraw and reflect This isn’t you “falling apart.” This is you letting go. Through practices like meditation, journaling, daily self-observation, coaching, and therapy… you begin to witness the parts of you that were created to survive—but are no longer aligned with who you’re becoming. And as you witness without judgment… those parts start to loosen their grip. The purge is the release. The exhale. The clearing. It can feel uncomfortable. Sometimes even scary. But it’s also a sign that your system feels safe enough to let it go. You’re not losing your real self. Your are shedding what was never truly you to begin with. In this space, we honour that process. You don’t have to rush it, and you don’t have to force it. And you definitely don’t have to go through it alone. Hold yourself gently through the release. There is wisdom in what is leaving you. And there is power in who you are becoming. Tx

Its Self Care Sunday. I spent the morning working out, walking in the park as ive been low on my steps this week, food prepping, meditating, cleaning and listening to music. Im going to put my feet up and read now. Reading feels like proper self care to me as i get to mentally enter new worlds and experiences, really slow down, sit in silence and immerse myself in one thing. Whats your self care Sunday looking like? Tx

IFS / Parts... Inside each of us lives a family of parts — each trying, in its own way, to protect us and help us survive. When we begin to get to know them, and listen to them with connection, compassion, and an understanding of their role, why they are there and what they need to be unburdened of that role, healing happens from within us. Here is an overview of IFS - if you're interested in learning more ill add a session to the calendar or classroom. Parts work is a big part of my coaching process and im a big Frank Anderson fan. The book No Bad Parts is excellent for learning more too. 💔 The Exile This is the younger, wounded part of us — the inner child who carries the pain and limiting beliefs such as: - I’m not good enough. - I’m unlovable - I’m not worthy - Im not important. These parts hold emotions like shame, sadness, loneliness, and grief. 🛡️ The Managers These are the proactive protectors — the parts that try to keep everything under control so we don’t feel the pain underneath. They try and run the show on a daily basis. They might look like: - the inner critic - perfectionist - planner - people-pleaser - high achiever, caretaker - or even anxiety and procrastination. 🔥 The Firefighters These parts come rushing in when pain gets triggered — when the wound feels too raw. They try to distract or soothe with short-term relief - overworking - numbing out - anger - addictions - bingeing - withdrawal - self harm 🌿 The Core Authentic Self At the core of us all is the Self — the calm, compassionate center that isn’t broken and doesn’t need fixing. The Self is curious, courageous, creative, confident, connected, clear, calm, and compassionate. When we pause and lead from our Self, we can understand, integrate, and heal every part of us. You are not your parts — you are the Self who can love them all back into harmony. Tx💫