Guess I should introduce myself, kinda skipped over that🤷‍♂️ I'm Jeremy I love in Michigan and am excited and also very nervous about joining this community. Three things I would like to gain from this community are - To become a more equitable partner - Be better able to understand and communicate with my wife - To become comfortable being vulnerable Some Things that my partner feel in love with me for - She could be her true self around me - I made her feel safe - "Because you're tall" direct quote

I am struggling with starting the weekly meetings with my wife. I know they are supposed to start light and not be all nighters, but I find myself not being able to initiate the meetings. I default as a follower and I'm lacking the confidence to lead the meeting. There is always so much going on and so much to talk about. How do I choose what to talk about? Any tips on how ways that any of you initiate the meetings with your partners or how to choose the meeting topic?

Hi, I'm just wondering if any men have advice on how to approach a conversation with my male partner about mental load to do with any potential future kids? I have a lot more experience with children than my partner does and also think about how I'd like to parent an awful lot, have started a parenting notebook with all of these thoughts and ideas. Worried that I will end up being the default parent despite the fact that my partner wouldn't want it to be that way - I want to help him see all the labour I'm already doing for a fmily structure we don't yet have and won't be able to for a while. I want to acknowledge that he does more of the financial labour for our future than I do. For context I am assigned female at birth (but don't strictly identify with this) and he is a cis man.

Form the COre EMotion Wheel: Anger SHame GUilt Fear Sad Lonely Hurt Joy

Doing the core emotion wheel in the webinar was intense. I'm not someone who opens up emotionally. Thanks Zack for the encouragement. It's so hard to be vulnerable when your whole life you've been told that it's supposed to be buried. It feels both wrong and freeing. I actually have a physical reaction to being vulnerable like that. My body gets really jittery and shaky. Does anybody else have a reaction like that?