We were 2.5 weeks postpartum with twins on mothersday, I wish I’d used all those moments of playing chess on my phone and scrolling to create more to honor Alyssa but here we are. I asked/told her I’d complete the project I wanted to make her for fathers day, and since we had so little capacity on mothersday, we’ll make this a joint parenthood celebration. She has been a clinical research associate and she went to her first industry conference back in December during second trimester. (She didn’t take any pics) and I watched her come back with a glow of joy being in her profession as the study she’s been working on is called paradigm and is changing the baseline protocol for how doctors will treat Acute Meyloid Luekemia. It’s a framed collage with her badge and lanyard and the presentation slides for the conference. And nodding the work she has put in and the impact the study will have.

’m working in worrying a chapter talking about some of the messaging we’ve received that’s led us astray. I feel like provider, aka reducing myself to a pay check has played a part but I know weve been pretty equal in our relationship financially. I think we’ve swapped back-and-forth being the top breadwinner five different times. How many of you recognize breadwinning and maybe excessive focus on bringing money in the home has been a contributor towards the situation. We are all in?

I’m working on chapter 1 and curious if ppl have a phrase they resonate with more. I think much of society expects men to being mostly emotionless, besides anger, resulting in lack of emotional literacy. I might call this being a rock or her rock. Is a phrasing that feels more familiar?

(Question to the men or to the women about their husbands) How much did you or thee father in your life take? How much would you have liked to take (or he)? How much did you have available with what compensation?

If you’re open to it I’d love to hear what your family looks like too?