Hi all, im Dan. I live in Pittsburgh PA and I am excited to join this community and better understand my partner’s mental load. I’m also excited for the opportunity to learn from others. Story time, I discovered this community last night. Was nervous to post. But today after work, my partner had dinner in the oven and she was doing some work on the balcony at the same time. She asked me to pull it out of the oven in ten minutes. I set a timer for ten, pull it out, and as it’s cooling, she comes over and asks “did you check if it was done?” Of course it wasn’t done. It had totally slipped my mind, I thought I was doing well enough just by pulling it out after ten minutes. Definitely my sign to make a post here. My partner fell in love with me for my kindness, my ability to have fun and make the most of any situation, and my reliability. It feels bad when I come up short on that third trait, so I am excited to learn from others here.

If you’re open to it I’d love to hear what your family looks like too?

Hey, I'm new here. I was looking for something like this to better connect with others. I've been listening to a lot of books just trying to improve my attitude. I may be older... as in 50+ but I feel young for my age and open to changing things that need to be changed. I am getting better at connecting with others. Sometimes I am good at listening and responding, other times I lose patience and explode to those I love the most. Sometimes I think it's because I'm not processing my emotions regularly or developing healthy connections with anyone. I hope to find some help here.

My name is Davian, I’m new here and I’m here to better understand how to take the mental load off of my partner.

Hi, I'm Joel 😀 I live in Ottawa, Canada 🇨🇦, married last October and I am hopeful, excited but also fearful to join. The fear comes from failure; as understanding my partner's mental load and acting accordingly will be a **MUST** for us to have a marriage for our lifetimes. I have failed over and over again without even realizing. Unfortunately, my wife is going through a full burn-out as a nurse. It's hard enough as it is; but now even harder. I took on 99% of the mental and physical load at first and slowly re-introducing her into the everyday responsibilities following her pace. I want to get 3 main things out of the community: 1. Understand and have clear actions towards managing mental & physical load 2. Get feedback or answers when it feels like hitting a "wall" 3. Accountability to face reality and learn My wife fell in love with my, in my opinion for: 1. My humour 2. My ambition & Creativity 3. My calm and logical problem solving qualities Excited to learn, meet and immerse myself in the world of understand the mental load.