Lately, I’ve been rolling the word restraint around in my brain, heart, and tongue. I’m leaning into the uncomfortable yet deliciousness of it, like a hard lemon candy. By restraint, I don't mean holding back Love. I don't mean politeness, making myself smaller, or silence. I mean holding Love wisely. The kind of restraint that lives in the pause between the impulse and intervention; the kind that resists the urge to smooth over, fix, rescue, or explain. It trusts people with their own dignity. Restraint is choosing not to make myself the center of every moment of care. It is the choice not to rush in, not to fill the silence, and not to force resolution, protecting what is trying to surface and the relationship holding it. I'm learning that restraint is what keeps True Hospitality from becoming control. It is presence without intrusion, care with boundaries, and Love that lets everyone Be. In my life, restraint has often been misunderstood as indifference, overlooked in systems that reward urgency, and taken advantage of by people who assume calm means endless capacity. And still, I am choosing it. Because restraint isn't weakness. It's strength under conscious direction. It is an ethical stance and a form of leadership I have quietly learned to trust through practice, beneath my conscious awareness. This process is uncomfortable. It is precise. Once tasted, it is hard to give up. Where in your life are you practicing restraint without calling it that? And what might change if you trusted it as a strength?

I’m not one for New Years Resolutions- I rather prefer to set intentions. Some might argue that there the same, but the framing, for me, is the difference. How about you? Do you make a list of New Year’s resolutions? Or intentions? Share them if you like, or any thoughts on them!

If you haven't already, be sure take a fully day to truly reflect over the last year and revel in all your growth from the past year. Often I see students who "finish" vs "complete" their year, rushing off to the next accomplishment. This is a big missed opportunity my clients often miss. Consider that without a deep dive to reflect, you can subconsciously run the same pattern into the new year getting the same incremental results, rather than truly building and creating unexpected results you couldn't even imagine. Catch the replay of our "Winter Solstice Integration and 365 Bows" workshop where we go through these 2025 reflection questions starting at 12:20:

Hope you're all enjoying the quiet reflections for the new year! We enjoyed a chill holiday at home this year when the mountain pass was too much to cross to go to my mom's. Instead, we played games Eli got for Christmas, attempted ice skating (too crowded) and went for a nature walk, asked questions for each other to answer (What was most surprising this year? What is your biggest milestone? etc) In the comments is a gif of a Wooden Goat burning from our annual winter solstice party at a friend's place. Found out 5 of us parents all had birthdays in December..! What did you all do? Please share pics in the comments!

Have you ever taken a vow of silence? What if I were to tell you silence is one of the greatest access points to calm the mind? As I attend my 3rd 10 Day Vipassana Silent Meditation Retreat this Wednesday, this week's challenge is to take a vow of silence for any period of time that works. Ideally it's at least a full day if not 2 days, but a half day for a few hours could work. MOJO MONDAY CHALLENGE 16: 1. Watch the video below on how to take a Vow of Silence/Silent Retreat. If you accept this challenge, comment below WHEN you'll take your retreat, where, and for how long. 2. Let us know how last week went for Mojo Monday Week 15 here. 3. Comment on 2 people's posts and support them!