As I've hinted at recently, later in the year I'll be trialling something new: a small group of hand selected people who are pushed over a short intense period of time to seriously level-up, through being held to account and supported to take efficient, brave actions of integrity. There will only be a small percentage of people here who are ready and would benefit from this burst-of-action approach. I want to get a sense of who I should keep in mind for this experience. If you feel that you're ready to drop all hesitancy and content-bingeing, and do a few weeks of intense, focused, highly-valuable behaviour changes, guided and supported by me and others like yourself, comment ACTION below.

In this workshop-style session, we explored the 3X model, a decision-making framework consisting of three phases: Explore (thinking and decision-making), Engage (taking action), and Release (reflecting on the outcome). We looked at how people get stuck in each phase - overthinking in Explore, being too busy in Engage, and excessive reflection in Release - and found practical strategies to overcome these stuck points. Recording is now available here (VIP exclusive). Cheers!

Yesterday, after much wrangling, I finally found time to sit down and record a new podcast episode without being distracted. I've been planning this episode for a couple of weeks, and I put a lot of thought and effort into creating something helpful. After finishing up, I noticed something rather annoying... I'd forgotten to hit "record". That means for nearly 2 hours I sat at my desk talking to myself about men's shame, with nothing to show for it. A few years ago, this would have ruined my day. I would have raged and ranted, and cursed the universe for being unfair, or cursed myself for being stupid. But I was pleasantly surprised to notice almost no emotional reaction whatsoever. It was like my brain processed the entire thing at super-speed instead of taking hours or days (or weeks): - I immediately accepted that the facts were in, and the past was written in stone. There was nothing to be gained from reviewing any further. - I applied the "drop in" technique and treated this like something another person had handed over to me (so I didn't take it personally or feel committed to previous obligations). - I quickly moved on to drafting realistic next moves based on the Shortest Path decision making (i.e. asking myself, "What's the most efficient reaction to this setback so I can achieve my goal of creating this podcast?") - I automatically reframed this as "practice" to ensure there was no sense of loss Then I remembered, thankfully, that my back-up recording had at least captured the audio, so I found it easy to identify what I could work with, and my brain adapted to this information and arrived at, "Well, I guess this can just be an audio-only podcast this time." Now, the back up recording isn't high quality, so I had to enhance the audio, and my wife will have to work some magic when she does her editing. It's still a hassle. But what I loved about this experience is that I got to skip over the pointless SUFFERING stage that most people go through when things go "wrong". This wallowing in "Why me?!" never provides any benefit, and only delays the necessary next moves that you always have to take anyway.

Most of you don’t need more insight, you need movement. I’m going to share something simple - It’s called the 3X Unstuck Protocol. I use this with coaching clients when they’re stuck. It's a structure for getting unstuck when you’re: - overthinking - overworking - or over-reflecting I turned it into a short practical guide you can download and use immediately. If you use it properly, you’ll take action within 24 hours.I Inside it shows you how to: - identify where you’re actually stuck (most people guess wrong) - force one clear action - stop overcomplicating decisions - stop being busy without progress - extract real lessons so you keep moving It’s basically the operating manual for when you know better but aren’t doing better. Use it once this week and you’ll learn more about yourself than from another 10 podcasts. Comment with the thing you're stuck with right now, and I'll DM you the PDF.

After much reflection and consideration, I’ve decided it’s time to change how I create content. THE CHANGE, IN A NUTSHELL: Starting from next month, I’m going to be exclusively publishing full podcasts. My written posts and email newsletters will be full transcripts of the podcasts (edited to be readable), so that all formats of my educational publications will be long-form and deep. No more shorter videos (<20min) or posts. I won’t be cutting podcasts into smaller pieces or creating short summaries anymore. The podcasts will still be published as videos on YouTube, but full length. In other words, I’m shifting to a quality over quantity model. WHY THIS IS HAPPENING I’ve completed a thorough review of my best coaching clients and the other people I’ve observed who have made the biggest improvements with building their confidence, creating amazing social lives, and generally living with integrity. I found there’s something they all have in common that I didn’t know: They prefer long-form content. I should have guessed, as it makes complete sense. When they want to change, they go deep. They’ve listened to many hours of my podcast, or read my books in full, or completed entire courses. They engage actively in my 30 Day Challenges. They show up for the Brotherhood workshops, taking notes and attempting the homework tasks diligently. And I’m not the only person they’re following! They invest SERIOUS time and effort into their confidence building and self-development education. I’ve also discretely tracked the other members of my audience, specifically: the ones who “lurk” for a long time, often appearing enthusiastic but not seeming to make significant progress. They have something in common too: they prefer lighter content; medium-length videos, short posts, clips, dabbling briefly in courses, etc. Obviously there are a few exceptions, but these trends generally hold true. I’ve had a rude awakening: I’m actually enabling certain people to consume content obsessively without making serious changes!