This is a real struggle for me, I've been working on it a lot. Since setting a boundary with some more parts I am really focusing to practice slowing down my interactions with my partner. Over the weekend I want to challenge myself to stick to this, to really pause and slow down the movement and speech with my partner, not in any heated topics or anything like that just practice being steady. Intentional cold showers have helped, my nervous system is slowly watching be intentional with every breath in that scenario, but I want to go further this weekend. What I need from you guys... It would help if someone could check in with me on Friday as a reminder to do it and then possibly again on Saturday to see if I have lived up to it.

Just a reflection on my last week, I've been struggling with reactivity and I got in from Uni tonight and realised a part was basically screaming at me. After some of the Stomatic Boundary work it really helped, I think I'm recognising a part of this process is not just take in information and then boom you'll be grounded its a lot of trail and error and the lessons are all tools to help guide the process.

So this week I didn't hold myself to a standard. I went towards the situation with all intent but I could feel like my nervous system still didn't trust me to do it. I took responsibility and didn't blame the parts but I wasn't sure why I wasn't trusted to lead by them. The reflection I got from this practice was that I let the parts help to easily. I'll offer a hand to them too soon. In the practice my partner was on the other side of the line and my parts couldn't get to me even though they tried. At first the parts got a hand through the barrier but then when I became the grounded man. There was no more of this, it became a physical wall for them and my partner. When I re-lived a heated situation and used the practice phrase, she looked confused but stopped. My parts thrashed to get to me but I didn't need them anymore. There is now a separation between myself and my parts. I hope to implement this soon

Hey lads, I need a bit of advice. I've had this issue pop up before and never really known how to handle it. How do you handle attention from other women? At uni I have a friend who is on my course and we just chat about work and stuff but every now and then there is a message or something that I feel like just crosses the line a bit. Like something you wouldn't say to a friend you know is in a relationship. I'm not interested in this girl at all and I'm fairly certain she isn't interested in me because this has only happened twice and I don't really get any vibe like that when we are actually in the same space, but there's just been two messages that I just think are a bit too friendly but how do I handle it? She's a good person and a really good scientist I haven't got anything wrong with being friends with her, I just feel uncomfortable when I feel like that line is crossed. Do I need to say something to her and make that boundary known, or is this just overthinking?

Gents! we are back into normal scheduling and full motion this week with our calls as of tonight. You should have completed the integration phase and know exactly where you are in the new model (the old one will be archived as of today). All group calls will have their own section in the "classroom" tab. see you soon,