After having a call with Harrison, he pointed out to me A lot of stuff I am going through with my wife that she and I haven’t really understood are explained back in the fragmented psychology module. So I went back and relistened to it a couple of times. I definitely see how the fixer part of me used to come out over the past few years anytime we hit conflict or disagreement. This isn’t entirely bad, but with my fixer part, there also needed to be calm, present part of me to first acknowledge what my wife was feeling and really listen to her first without jumping to trying to fix things. Also thinking about her, there are definitely parts of her that still care about me and want to make our marriage work, but there are parts of her, which are very protectant and are trying to not let her possibly get hurt again. It was nice to be able to think in terms of parts, where it isn’t all or nothing with her. I need to be steady and solid, to be able to show her protectant parts she has nothing to fear with me.

"What is the most important thing right now?" I honestly think this phrase has carried me through this week and somehow it has aligned with what I've been thinking about a lot this week. I'm going to own that a part of me wants to get my relationship back, but another part of understands that what I did was the right decision for this moment. Despite this I'm still human and I still slip up and I'm not grounded 100% of the time. This phrase has helped me reset those moments, where even if I slip it's not the biggest deal. What matter more is what I do next. Because I'm realising that change starts with Action. I don't need more podcasts or books or anything else, I just need to start doing the thing. And this phrase has helped me find that discipline even in moments where I'm losing. I've felt more grounded even though I've not been the absolute best version of myself and I truly believe this is where growth occurs.

Gents, Our first call ( Grounded call) this week will be 2 hours earlier than normal (same time as last weeks calls) Check the calendar for the time in your time zone. See you all there ✊🏾 (All other calls this week will be at their regular time)