Wanted to share to hold myself accountable. Talking to my wife the other day trying to figure out if our two oldest kids should do aau basketball. Many of the tournaments will likely overlap which would mean we’d have some weekends split up. My wife told me that she didn’t like that idea because she doesn’t like to be away from our kids and she doesn’t trust that I would keep our son safe. Perfect moment for me to be the lighthouse, but hearing that made me immediately think of all the work I’ve done the last 18 months, how I’m a totally different person than I was then. And it cut me pretty deep. I wasn’t able to keep my composure, didn’t raise my voice but said something back to her like “I’m not sure what else I need to do for you to see the new me.” Well, failed that test. Then I log into this, and the next module was Leading her emotions without losing yourself. If only I had logged into one day sooner. In all honesty though, I have overall been very good at keeping my calm, it must have been what she said that got me. The fact that she doesn’t trust me with our own son, just got to me. I wish I had virtual reality to practice these instances, work on being the lighthouse. We don’t argue or fight hardly at all, so when she DOES get upset, so feel like it’s even more important that I then stay calm and cool. Any tips on how to ALWAYS stay that lighthouse?

This channel tracks behavior, not insight. (formerly WINS) What this channel is for - Following through on commitments - Holding boundaries - Staying regulated under pressure - Acting without seeking approval How to use it - State the action you took - Keep context minimal - Let the behavior speak Do NOT post here - Emotional wins - Motivation or hype - Insight without action - Self-praise or validation-seeking This is where standards become visible.

Polite masculinity is not kindness. It’s nice guy fear disguised as "i don't want to be rude". Explaining instead of deciding. Managing emotions instead of holding the frame. Calling it “being a good man” while avoiding tension. If you get that feeling, you know the exact one, the one where "should I say something", the nice guy part of you will try to justify not speaking up, but what you're feeling is your inner grounded man itching to step up. Not to be rude, not to be arrogant. But because he knows whats right, and what should be said. The work of the path you're on is to dismantle that operating system. Who has felt this recently and allowed the grounded man in them to step up?

I was inspired by Harrison to reflect on some wins I’ve had lately, the biggest one, to me lately, is that I took some time for myself this past weekend, and went to visit my best friend from college. I know that doesn’t seem like much, but I’ve even married for over 15 years now, and honestly a part of me has gotten lost. I love my wife, I love my kids, but in 15 years I haven’t taken one day to recharge my own batteries. Taking a day, going to catch up with a great friend in person instead of over text or social media, was awesome! I’m sure I’m not the only one that has fallen into this. It’s so easy with busy families to just keep going, keep going to the next thing. Yes, it’s extremely important to be a loving, grounded husband and father, but it’s also important to be a great friend as well and pour into ourselves as well. Iron sharpens iron, and this friend definitely keeps me focused on being the best version of myself, and vice versa. The holiday season gets busy, it’s easy to get lost in the business of it. Make sure not to forget about yourself!

So the one thing I did to get out of my comfort zone was sort of embarrassing myself as I hate recording myself talking online in front of who know how many people will see. I purposely posted a story that I messed up on my wording and sort of rambled. But I put myself out that while also showing my face! It was tough hitting that submit button.