THIS IS WHY “JUST BE CONSISTENT” IS BS WHEN YOU’VE GOT KIDS AT HOME
Working from home with kids is a whole different story and I think I forgot just how much. Because normally it’s just me and Lily. She’s 13, she’s very self-sufficient, I can work, I can think, I can actually function. But this week, I’ve had the grandkids here and it’s been chaos. I couldn’t even have my quiet time in the morning to do anything they were up early, so that space I normally have. Just gone. And I was still getting up, still trying to work but I just couldn’t do as much as I wanted to. There were just so many distractions going on around me, constantly. And it’s not even just “busy” it’s constant. Like, there has to be someone in the room at all times- noise, meltdowns, people talking, needing something, every time I move into another room, they follow me. I even said the other day “I can’t type or text when people are talking around me because I’ll literally start typing what they’re saying.” That’s where my brain gets to. So trying to get anything done like that, it’s just, really hard. And I think that’s the bit. I felt like I failed a bit. Because in my head I’m like you should be doing more, you need to be doing more But my brain just couldn’t comprehend it. Because you can’t switch off, you can’t think straight, you can’t focus, and you’re still trying to show up and get things done. But, this is the shift I’ve had this week, I’m not beating myself up about it anymore. Because I still worked. I still showed up. I just didn’t do as much as I thought I “should”. And normally I’d go to bed thinking for f sake you didn’t do this, you didn’t do that, but this week it’s been different I’ve been like actually, I got so much done in the house that needed doing, and I feel lighter for it. Because sometimes it’s not that you’re not doing enough it’s that you’re trying to function like everything’s normal when it’s not. How are you actually coping this half term honestly? PS - If you’re feeling overwhelmed, reactive, like your brain just can’t function with everything going on, this is exactly what I support mums through.