A lot of people come into this space thinking they should already feel calmer. You’ve left. You understand what happened. You’ve done the thinking. So when your body still feels unsettled, it’s easy to assume something isn’t working. I want to slow that story down. Your nervous system does not calm down because you know you’re safe. It calms down because it experiences safety — over time. For a long time, your body learned to stay alert in order to survive. That meant scanning for changes. Managing emotional shifts. Preparing for the next thing that might go wrong. That level of vigilance doesn’t just switch off. So if your body still feels on edge, tired-but-wired, flat, or restless, that isn’t failure. It’s a nervous system that hasn’t yet learned it’s allowed to stand down. This week isn’t about fixing that. It’s about understanding it — without judgement. Nothing is wrong with you. Your body is doing exactly what it learned to do.

You Are Not Broken — Your Body Is Still Protecting You I want to speak to something that many of you are quietly carrying right now. You might be telling yourself: “I should be calmer by now.” “I understand what happened — so why do I still feel like this?” “Other people seem to move on. Why can’t I?” And somewhere underneath that, a more painful thought: “Maybe this is just me.” I want to say this clearly, gently, and without fixing anything: What you’re experiencing makes sense. Your body didn’t live that experience as a story. It lived it as something it had to survive. For a long time, your nervous system learned that staying alert mattered. That tracking moods mattered. That anticipating changes mattered. That being ready mattered. That wasn’t weakness. That was intelligence in a difficult environment. So when things finally slow down, your body doesn’t immediately relax into peace or clarity. Often, it does the opposite. It stays watchful. It hesitates. It holds tension. It doesn’t quite trust that it’s safe to stand down yet. That doesn’t mean healing isn’t happening. It means your body is still checking. You might notice moments where you feel: on edge for no obvious reason tired but unable to fully rest flat or disconnected when you expected relief emotional about small things unsure of who you are now These reactions can feel confusing — even embarrassing — especially when your mind knows better. But your nervous system doesn’t move at the speed of logic. It moves at the speed of experience. It needs time. Consistency. Low demand. Gentle proof. Not pressure. If you’ve been judging yourself this month — even quietly — I want to pause that narrative. You are not: failing at healing stuck weak going backwards You are integrating something that took a long time to live through. That kind of integration is rarely dramatic. It’s subtle. It’s quiet. It often looks like “not much is happening.” But underneath, your body is learning something new: “I don’t have to brace all the time.” “I can slow down without being punished.” “I don’t need to be ready for impact.”