6d ⢠You Are Not Crazy
đ February Letter
You Are Not Broken â Your Body Is Still Protecting You
I want to speak to something that many of you are quietly carrying right now.
You might be telling yourself: âI should be calmer by now.â
âI understand what happened â so why do I still feel like this?â
âOther people seem to move on. Why canât I?â
And somewhere underneath that, a more painful thought: âMaybe this is just me.â
I want to say this clearly, gently, and without fixing anything:
What youâre experiencing makes sense.
Your body didnât live that experience as a story.
It lived it as something it had to survive.
For a long time, your nervous system learned that staying alert mattered.
That tracking moods mattered.
That anticipating changes mattered.
That being ready mattered.
That wasnât weakness.
That was intelligence in a difficult environment.
So when things finally slow down, your body doesnât immediately relax into peace or clarity.
Often, it does the opposite.
It stays watchful.
It hesitates.
It holds tension.
It doesnât quite trust that itâs safe to stand down yet.
That doesnât mean healing isnât happening.
It means your body is still checking.
You might notice moments where you feel:
on edge for no obvious reason
tired but unable to fully rest
flat or disconnected when you expected relief
emotional about small things
unsure of who you are now
These reactions can feel confusing â even embarrassing â especially when your mind knows better.
But your nervous system doesnât move at the speed of logic. It moves at the speed of experience.
It needs time.
Consistency.
Low demand.
Gentle proof.
Not pressure.
If youâve been judging yourself this month â even quietly â I want to pause that narrative.
You are not:
failing at healing
stuck
weak
going backwards
You are integrating something that took a long time to live through.
That kind of integration is rarely dramatic. Itâs subtle. Itâs quiet. It often looks like ânot much is happening.â
But underneath, your body is learning something new: âI donât have to brace all the time.â âI can slow down without being punished.â âI donât need to be ready for impact.â
That learning doesnât announce itself. It settles in gradually.
If all you did this month was:
notice your body a little more
stop pushing yourself quite as hard
rest without fully justifying it
stay when discomfort showed up instead of fixing it
That counts.
More than you realise.
You donât need to feel better yet. You donât need clarity. You donât need momentum.
You need safety. And safety builds quietly, through repetition.
So if your mind is telling you: âSomething is wrong with meâ
I want you to borrow this instead: âNothing is wrong. Something is unwinding.â
You are not behind. You are not broken. You are not doing this wrong.
Your body is still protecting you â and learning, slowly, that it doesnât have to work quite so hard anymore.
Thatâs not madness.
Thatâs healing.
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Anita
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