Assertion: the reason you are not happy is because you don't want to

Jul 16 • Events

But I do want to be happy, that's all I want - you might say

No you don't - we would say

Solving problems is more important to you than actually being happy. It seems like if you just solve this problem then you can be happy. But what happens then?

Can you see that almost all the time in your actual life expereince there is a problem in mind. Constantly jumping from one problem to solve to the next. What do I have to get done today? What is for lunch? How do I do this meeting right? What should I say in such and such a context? What would they think of me if I did such and such? On and on and on and on.

Lets call this the problem solving experience. I will say that 98% of the time this is what most people experience. To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this experience. The only little issue is that the goal of this experience is not happiness. The goal of this is to get to happiness (or to some kind of resolution - pleasure). The goal is to solve a problem and get to some acheivement, somewhere else.

What if, if you stopped trying to be somewhere else, you found that you are already happy. Im not talking about some spiritual fantasy. When do you ever really focus on just being happy now with whatever you experience in the moment, not giving any attention about how others view you, all the stuff that should happen in life and all the thoughts about the past and the future? I assert that when you actually do that, you experience being happy. It's that simple, you can try it.

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