My ENB haiku, or stop suffering and start living
I would like to share some insights I've got during the Spring Retreat, to inspire people to participate themselves, and perhaps to spark some insights in others. I want to open with a "haiku" I wrote as a summary of an insight I have got during the Experiencing the Nature of Being (ENB) workshop, even though it relates more to suffering than to anything else: I am I do my best It's enough. Let it sink in. Now, obviously, "my best" is not always "enough" to achieve particular results. I can't fix everything, and especially not all my relationships. Life will do what life does, and it will do things I don't like. At least until I transcend liking and disliking. Yet, it is enough nonetheless. I won't always get my way, and it is fine. I do my best, and I can't do more than that. So it is enough, no matter the outcomes. Do you hear the whispering of the part of your mind that tells you that no, this is not true, that you could have done more if only you tried harder? Kick it in the nuts! This is clearly impossible. No matter what you do, you could always imagine doing it better. It's a trap. Now, I don't want to excuse slacking off. Continue doing your best, growing and developing. But don't try to do more than that (which is impossible) and don't beat yourself over the outcomes that will arise. What will arise will arise. I also try to see others this way. No matter who they are and what they do, they are trying their best. Even if objectively it is not very good. It is just the best they can do, and they have not made themselves. They are just trying to be happy, even of they are trampling over other people and sabotaging the very happiness they aim for by their actions. They haven't chosen to be clueless and to have the personality and beliefs they have, and if they understood and could, they would certainly gladly switch with a more integrated person. I like to think of one man-baby famous politician. He is lying, self-aggrandizing, with little to no honesty and integrity and little care about truth or others. Yet, it seems to me, he's just trying - and failing - to prove (primarily to himself) that he is not a worthless piece of shit, doing the best he can. Sadly, his best is pretty bad. But again, he hasn't chosen to be this pathetic piece of crap.