Why Don't You Create a Religion?

I think I am falling in a trap, lately. I tend to have a hard time relating with people when they talk about their struggles and problems. I feel like I can clearly see through their crap and often point out ways of how they are being dishonest to themselves instead of taking responsibility. I tend to do this instead of showing acceptance and compassion towards them. I am assuming that I know how they would be better off and that I have to behave as their teacher. I think that I am being honest, yet at times, this behaviour makes it hard to relate to people. Has anybody else experienced this at some point? I think the broader question is, how to effectively balance honesty and compassion?

One day, when I was a teenager, I caught myself creating a self. I was sitting in a balcony in my flat in Kyiv when it suddenly hit me that I had to take on some personal qualities to become 'a someone'. I didn't know WHY I had to be that particular someone. Everybody seemed to be doing it - and the only alternative to that was "being noone", and I didn't want that. The curious part was, deep down, I didn't feel like any of the qualities I could assume would describe me truthfully. I knew that every quality would be a lie or an act, but I had to do that anyway, because it was the only game in town. I wasn't conscious back then of the real reasons why I was doing it. I didn't question who I really was at that point. Today I was contemplating "Why did I feel compelled to create and maintain a sense of being a particular self in the first place?", and this memory came up. So I decided to share it because I thought it was interesting.

„You can‘t explain consciousness.“