Stop trying to heal your inner child

In order to become an adult, you have to learn to let go of the childhood you didn't get. You can't pick up adulthood if you're still holding on to whatever it was you missed as a kid.

And you focus on this fault because healing is not about regaining something, it is about realising that what is lost is lost for good, and with that, you lose the hope of ever going back. That realisation frightens you, so you keep staring at the gap between what happened and what should have happened, hoping to close it somehow. But that fixation keeps you trapped in the past. Every decision you make is still an attempt to reconcile those two versions of your childhood.

So now you live in a world you don't fully enjoy, because you adopted the mindset of that incomplete child trying to travel back in time and fix whatever wasn't right.

How much easier would it be to simply accept that part of that was missed, instead of putting your adult development on hold to wait around for it?

Because childhood is not a progress bar. It's not task-oriented. It ends with age. Whatever it was, is what it was supposed to be. It is not a new responsibility, something you have to go back and complete. It's done.

You have to move away from this fault, because only then can you pick up who you are supposed to be as an adult.

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Stop trying to heal your inner child