What I'm saying here, i'll try to frame as better as i can not to fall into the usual stereotype nonsense that divides us Brothers and Sisters. Not because We're stupid, just cause it hurts so much that the shortest path is often accepted as the most likely answer, as neurology discovered. The most comfortable resting point. Yet the path goes much further beyond that mere simplifiyng, and stopping there is tearing us all down. Tonight i was incredibly grateful to have this conversation peacefully, with one of the dearest friends i have. She's a great listener and supported my path like nobody ever did, listening, respecting, confirming, pushing me further, challenging and hugging me through most of it, even if the occasions to see or phone each other were very rare, even if my vision hurt her at times. We talked about this thing i am going to share, or better i rambled and she listened attentively, got really uncomfortable but very interested, concluding with "there's some truth in there, i'll think much about this". and i am really grateful. There is an unspoken divide between human females and human males. i've realized it is so rooted and it is so deeply unconscious that whenever it comes up knives are unsheated. Nobody wants to talk about that. Everyone gets uncomfortable. Yet it is Love. Deserved. Felt. Ungiven, denied or not shown. Therefore a shadow, and maybe one of the greatest. Both of us are doing our particular flavour of the fault that causes it, and sometimes discuss with friends or strangers of the same sex about the fault of the opposite sex, and most oftenly argue about this when it comes up with the opposite sex. Much more often never admitting our side's faults. My intuition tells me women usually go much more in depth with their closest friends, while men are usually more sarcastic and circle around it. You know... feelings... :P Basically: When we speak with a woman, say Romina, there comes a specific point when we project unto her all the injustice from all the females we have endured through life.

If your goal is to ascend to His summit, do not indulge your attention in the beautiful things that line the road before you. The world is full of things that want your attention. Some are beautiful, some are fascinating, some appear important, and some even disguise themselves as wisdom. Yet all of them share one thing in common: they ask you to stop and look at them. The flower asks to be admired. The stone asks to be collected. The waterfall invites you to remain a little longer and enjoy its freshness. None of these things are evil, and none of them are wrong. The danger lies elsewhere. The danger is forgetting where you were going. The more attention you give to the things of the world, the further the summit seems to move into the distance. Not because the summit has changed, but because your gaze has left it. Nothing of this world can give you what awaits at the top. Therefore guard your attention carefully. Do not become intoxicated by the beauty of the roadside and do not lose yourself in the countless distractions that surround you. Keep your eyes on the summit. The question is not whether you are busy. The question is not whether you are moving. The question is whether your attention still rests upon God, or whether it has wandered off into the flowers along the path. Are you still climbing? ⛰️🙏

Curious if people have suggestions/advice/experience with successfully identifying personal triggers and what strategies they use to create healthier responses? We are referring to a “trigger” in the psychological sense as a stimulus (like a sight, sound, smell, or situation) that brings on a strong, often negative emotional or physical reaction. We created an informal course called “triggernometry” with some friends that uses existing tools and worksheets from the interwebs, but sometimes when triggered we find myself unable to get out of the loop of negative thoughts and behaviors. The idea of the “course” is to cultivate awareness of personal triggers, regulate my nervous system and process the situation so that we don’t cycle through a pattern unconsciously, thus being able to consciously make a new choice and respond accordingly. …easier said than done 🫠 Just wondering if people have some creative ideas and alternatives to move through these kinds of charged situations ⚡️

Rey you say that helping others to grow spiritually makes no sense, but you do it! Would you explain? Thanks Milan

In order to become an adult, you have to learn to let go of the childhood you didn't get. You can't pick up adulthood if you're still holding on to whatever it was you missed as a kid. And you focus on this fault because healing is not about regaining something, it is about realising that what is lost is lost for good, and with that, you lose the hope of ever going back. That realisation frightens you, so you keep staring at the gap between what happened and what should have happened, hoping to close it somehow. But that fixation keeps you trapped in the past. Every decision you make is still an attempt to reconcile those two versions of your childhood. So now you live in a world you don't fully enjoy, because you adopted the mindset of that incomplete child trying to travel back in time and fix whatever wasn't right. How much easier would it be to simply accept that part of that was missed, instead of putting your adult development on hold to wait around for it? Because childhood is not a progress bar. It's not task-oriented. It ends with age. Whatever it was, is what it was supposed to be. It is not a new responsibility, something you have to go back and complete. It's done. You have to move away from this fault, because only then can you pick up who you are supposed to be as an adult.