Capacity isn’t how much you can do. It’s how much you can stay with. It looks like answering an email without your chest tightening. Having a hard conversation without rehearsing it for three days first. Feeling tired without making it mean you’re failing. Capacity is the pause before reacting — not because you’re calm, but because your nervous system isn’t in emergency mode. It’s being able to: Make a decision without panic attached Feel desire without immediately trying to control the outcome Leave something unfinished without spiraling Hold disappointment without collapsing or overcorrecting In theory, capacity sounds like resilience. In real life, it’s quieter than that. Less adrenaline. More room. And here’s what most people miss: When capacity increases, life doesn’t get louder or faster. It gets simpler. You stop forcing clarity. You stop chasing regulation. You stop performing readiness. Things move because there’s space for them to move. That’s capacity.

Healing and regulation aren't the same thing. Healing looks backward: processing trauma, understanding patterns, grieving what was. Regulation looks forward: building capacity, expanding your window of tolerance, wiring your nervous system for what you're calling in. You can do years of healing work and still have a dysregulated nervous system. You can understand WHY you self-sabotage and still do it. Because healing gives you awareness. Regulation gives you capacity. Both matter. But they're different work. This community? This is regulation work. We're not sitting in the story of what happened. We're building the foundation for what's next. Does this land for you? Where are you in your own journey - healing, regulation, or both?

Your nervous system doesn't speak in words. It speaks in sensations. That tightness in your chest when someone gets too close. The knot in your stomach before you hit "publish." The numbness that shows up when things get overwhelming. The exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. These aren't random. They're messages. Your body is telling you: "This feels like danger." Even when logically, you know you're safe. The work? Learning to decode those messages. To recognize: "Oh, this is fight/flight. I'm not actually in danger. My nervous system just thinks I am." And then giving your body what it actually needs to feel safe. Not pushing through. Not ignoring it. Not "thinking positive." But actually regulating. What sensation shows up most for YOU? Where do you feel dysregulation in your body?

People ask me all the time: "How do I know when I'm regulated?" Here's what it actually feels like: You can receive a compliment without deflecting. You can sit with success without waiting for the other shoe to drop. You can be seen without needing to shrink. You can hold desire without shame. You can rest without feeling guilty. You can say no without over-explaining. You can receive money, love, recognition... and your body doesn't freak out. Regulation isn't "calm all the time." It's capacity to hold the full range of human experience without your nervous system pulling you into survival mode. That's the difference. What does regulation feel like for YOU? Or what do you hope it will feel like?

The pattern I see everywhere: Brilliant women who have the strategy, the vision, the desire... but they keep hitting the same ceiling. They'll build everything right, get close to the breakthrough, then: - Create unnecessary drama - Pick fights with people who support them - Get "sick" right before the big opportunity - Sabotage the deal/relationship/launch And they think something's wrong with THEM. But here's what's actually happening: Their nervous system is doing its job. It's protecting them. Because expansion = unknown = danger to a dysregulated nervous system. So it pulls them back to what's familiar. Even if "familiar" is struggle. The work isn't fixing yourself. You're not broken. The work is building your nervous system's capacity to hold more. More success. More love. More visibility. More expansion. Without the pullback. That's what we do here. Have you noticed this pattern in your own life? Where does the self-sabotage show up for you?