Thoughts on personal style... · Real Men Real Style Community

Thoughts on personal style...

Picking a personal style is not about chasing trends or reinventing yourself every season. It is about recognizing what you consistently return to and owning it with intention. Over time, I noticed that my choices kept circling the same principles. Clean silhouettes. Quality materials. Restraint. Clothes that feel settled rather than performative. That repetition was not accidental. It was evidence. Personal style shows up in what you trust when there is no audience to impress and no costume required.

I have worked in and helped close six, seven, eight, and even nine digit sales, and I have presented at conferences where attention is earned, not demanded. What I learned early on is that owning a room has nothing to do with peacocking. It comes from your voice, your posture, and your calm. When you are put together without being loud, people focus on what you are saying and how you carry yourself, not on flash or bling. Clothes should support that presence, not compete with it.

Clothes should also target the mission. A suit is great at a fine dining establishment. You do not wear it to the gym. Know your target and know your audience. Context matters. Dressing well is not about wearing the same thing everywhere. It is about choosing the right expression of yourself for the room you are walking into. Brothers, you can own a room. If you have not yet, it is something that can be learned.

My style may sound odd to some, especially given that I wear a lot of John Varvatos, which many people think of as a rocker brand. But facts are facts. I choose the pieces for their fit, texture, and restraint, not for flash or hardware. I do not buy cheap clothes, and sometimes I will go a little overboard when a piece truly fits my standards. Other times, I am just as happy being a bargain hunter. The price is not the point. Intention is. I would describe my style as understated, intentional, and refined casual. Clean lines. Elevated basics. Very little flash. I want my clothes to stay out of the way so my presence can do the work.

That is what works for me. I am curious how others think about it. How do you describe your style, and why does it work for you? If you have no idea, one tool that is kind neat if salesy is the Nordstrom style finder. It lists me at 33% minimalist, and 22% classic. It is kind of neat. Here is the link, but it does require a free account. https://www.nordstrom.com/style-quiz

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