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failed Meeting-attraction???

Salaam everyone. Making duaa you all find a pious spouse.

I recently had an unsuccessful meeting with a potential who came to the house as the very first step. Initially, he was quite awkward and then afterwards he warmed up and we did have a decent conversation but it was nothing amazing and at times I did feel as though I was bored or didn't really feel it was super dynamic/challenging.

However, ultimately I did not find this prospective attractive , which was hard to admit bc his family seemed lovely and the parents hit it off he also seemed like a decent man too.

My parents felt as though me saying no based on that was immature and I should have trusted the Islamic process more and I'd love him after marriage. My question is how to approach this barrier of attraction?

Most of the time I'm either being rejected in the CV circuit (my community's beauty standards aren't really alligned with myself), but on the flipside often after meetings I struggle to feel enough of an attraction to follow the process through, especially as I'm doing everything with my parents and that tends to expediate the process.

From my side I feel a little resentful that just bc I'm not really meeting societal standards I can't expect to feel the slightest bit of attraction to a spouse, my parents keep operating under the pressures of my age as a 26 year old and my past rejections. Also my family are incredibly loving and supporting and i know they just want me happy but we keep clashing on this matter... Any advice/ hard truths will be welcomed.😅

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