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7 signs of being ready for marriage series-1

Alsalaam Aleyikum sisters I hope you're all well. Having watched pt2 of the signs of being ready for marriage yt video I sat almost all day trying to get some things together. I had intended to start with learning nikah fiqh but subhanAllah I ended up doing some research about financial abuse to educate myself on how to gain financial awareness in this situation. Alhamdulillah even though it was very difficult to read through and process everything, I made sure to take notes and write my next practical steps whch include starting with nikah fiqh. In addition to that, I went through my previous therapy notes and compiled them in one place so that inshaAllah they're easier to reference. I will be starting on some of the exercises from now too biidhnillah. I also got in contact with a therapist who I think would be right for my cirumstances and hope Allah eases for me to restart therapy ya rabb. I then renewed my intention alhamdulillah and I hope to always renew it and that it is always for the sake of Allah ya rabb. I documented this and I think I will have a binder to store these and always take notes as I comb through the 7 signs. So far alhamdulillah I have checked off 2 aspects, those being:

My faith being an anchor.
My intention being for the sake of Allah.

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Next up is :

Understanding marriage responsbility

This will be acheived through :

Learning nikah fiqh
Knowing mine, husband's, and children's rights and responsbilities
Outlining what I can take up extra based on 'urf and capability and boundaries.
Reading a book I had planned to read about how to plan out chores and tecniques
Implementing what I learn from the book from now
Learn the halal and haram of intimate relations
Read about femininity in islam
Learn about pregnancy and birth control
Learn about tarbiya techniques taking based on the prophet pbuh's techniques
Additions based on what I learn from these will be taken up later.

Followed by:

Financial awareness

This will be acheived through:

Learning about budgeting
Learning about investments for fam in general and kids in particular
Learning about saving
Learning about protecting assets
Learn about retirement planning
Draw up financial boundaries
Learn how to discuss financial topics with potentials

Then :

Research about EQ and Emotional maturity
Make steps to improve
Read books on these topics
Apply what is learned in daily life
Therapy if can be afforded to deal with traumas and further develop EQ and emotional and psychological maturity.

Lastly:

Physcial health eventhough already being addressed but these below are not yet:

Learn about nutrition
Practically meal prep
Learning about the circadian rythm and biological clock
Learn about herbal medications from my culture first then others
Learn about digestion
Therapy
Apply to life what is learned

I assume this should lead to mature decision making at the end biidhnillah. I think I will follow an agile development approach here (tech refrence) and do a few from each every cycle this way I avoid going too deep on one aspect and knowing nothing about the rest. I belive it will created a sort of balance and efficiency biidhnillah. May Allah grant us all success.

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