So - watched video 1 and pleased to say as of Mon this week have been avoiding the attraction killers. Video 2 - i now understand that my partner lost faith that things were going to change, at least to the degree she needed, to show her a different future awaited rather than more of the same.......she unloaded on me when drunk last April, I think I made progress on some points but maybe not others and she noticed patterns of repeated behaviours she didnt like. My partner stated whilst out on a date night in Feb/March after a few drinks (again drunk mouths betray sober hearts) that she didnt feel we were connected (exact phrase Mark's video uses) and I still deluded myself that we were ok but subconsciously felt increasingly uneasy. Now I get it.