Lesson 3 - I agree · Marriage Recovery Community

Lesson 3 - I agree

So just watched lesson 3 and instinctively agree that talking about the problems just makes your partner feel pressured. As of Monday this week I regained enough emotional control to shut up. That was after the first two weeks of behaving like every other man in this situation- panicked, confused, upset, needy etc. My partner has calmed down around me and we watched TV together again last night although she capped it off by asking if I could buy some plastic crates today sonshe can declutter ahead of house photos being doe Mon by estate agent. I am remaining calm and once again I now recall during last Aprils "conversation" my partner said "You are better at arguing than me!". I now understand i woukd reaction defensively and use logic to justify my position, rather than trying to understand how that had made her FEEL. Post April I thought I had done well in not "outarguing" her but had fundamentally missed the point of what she was saying. I am still worried at the pace at which this separation is progressing and that will get worse if we get good offers in quickly for the house after it goes upnfor sale next week. Timing of listing just before schools break for summer and general property market against us but we shall see. Great video Mark , all made sense to me. Heading home now to have dinner.with partner and kids, then TV. No raising problems from me tonight that is for sure

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Lesson 3 - I agree