Tip #2/4 for reaching an avoidant spouse · Marital Crossroads To Clarity

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Tip #2/4 for reaching an avoidant spouse

THIS one helped me so much to have much more constructive conversations!

Ever found yourself launching into fix-it mode when your spouse has talked to you about something - because the solution seems so obvious?

Or perhaps you've AVOIDED even starting a conversation because your spouse has done that so many times, when it hasn't been what you were needing - that you just keep it to yourself?

Tip #2 helps you BOTH.

Instead of launching into a conversation, pre-frame it at the beginning by defining exactly what you are needing. "I want to talk something through with you. What I need is for you to just listen, because I want to process this out loud. This would really help me."

Or try this:

"I want to talk something through with you, and I want to hear your thoughts on a possible solution..."

Whether you just need him to listen, or you need him to come up with solutions to something - naming what you need at the very beginning takes the pressure of him and gives him a clear, achievable role.

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Tip #2/4 for reaching an avoidant spouse