In the hardest moments in my marriage I have always found that God's perspective on things is always completely different to mine. So - how do we tap in to that? I share briefly on it in this video. Hope this encourages you!

I'd prayed. I went to counselling. I read books. I thought I did all "the things" to figure out why I would shut down any time conflict showed up in my marriage. For longer than I can remember I often assumed something was simply wrong with me. It was after I completed my Coaching training and supplemented that to also become a Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) practitioner and Certified Hypnotherapist that the awareness and subsequent healing came. What I thought "was wrong with me" was in fact my nervous system doing what God designed it to do - protect me. The issue was that my nervous system was on overdrive that required a level of alertness that was difficult to switch off. I didn't SEE it because it was buried so deep in my subconscious mind. During the RTT training as students we would practice what we had learned, and so in a session as the 'client' I said the issue I wanted to get to the root cause of was this aversion I had to conflict. The trauma response I'd developed came from a belief I formed as a 10-yr old girl, when my mother left my dad, me, and my two little brothers. I made an equation in my mind that "when two people who love each other fight, one of them is going to leave." I carried that subconscious belief years into my marriage. How did it show up? We'd be shopping for furniture. He'd ask "what do you think of this couch?" I'd say "whatever you think". He'd ask my opinion about a situation. My comment would end the same..."whatever you think" I had a deep fear that if we got into a fight over anything, he would leave. Here's the point of me starting this conversation here. If ANY part of this resonated with you in some small way, if YOU have at any time thought "there's something wrong with me" - it's simply not true. Not one bit.

Hi there! I'm Julie - founder of Marital Crossroads To Clarity. Welcome! I am thrilled to see you here!! First things first. I'd like to 'set the scene' for you in terms of expectations. Together we are going to build a community that is: ✅ Supportive - you are not on your own ✅ Practical - in terms of learning...then implementing! The Bible is a Life Manual (and more) like no other and when that is combined with science in terms of how God wired and designed us - incredible change and growth can happen even in the middle of our trials. ✅ Idea-spawning and inspiring (you have YOUR unique voice and wisdom to share) ✅ Fun! Yes - you read that right. Starting with the poll below 😊 ✝️ Faith-deepening (with God being the ULTIMATE source of wisdom) HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS GROUP 🗣️ Engage! Ask questions. Share where you are at. Contribute and comment on others posts. ➡️ Head over to the Start Here Course One thing you should also know: As an accredited Coach, I have a paid coaching program. When you're ready to go deeper, there is a paid way to work with me one-to-one. HERE'S WHAT TO DO NEXT 👋 Introduce yourself below! 🗺️ Let me know where you are from ➡️Comment on another person's introduction. FOR SOME FUN ❓ What would be your FAVOURITE thing to do if you had a day all to yourself? Would you: 💆‍♀️Head to a Day Spa for the day? ☕Find a great Bookstore that has a Cafe with couches - and get lost in books, coffee and a🍰 🛍️Go shopping and buy something special just for YOU 🌲Get off the beaten track and get into nature for the day? Thank you for being here! Julie.